I am new to this. Love the material and excited to learn more and take it out.

Don't call me a wuss a 100 times, but I want to see what any of you would do in my situation to win a girl back....really just because I want to mess with her a bit and I really did connect with her....I thought.
I have just started reading the Intro to NLP and was thinking of using that but want your advice.

I had an affair with a gal for about 2 yrs. We were all friends, lived in the same hood and something connected us on a work trip. We fought it because as couples we all hung out, but we continually connected on email and made a big sexual connection as we were both missing a lot of the same things. So I turned 40. Had a party to celebrate. Got caught with her in the closet by my soon to be ex wife.
Good thing thats all they caught me doing as we had a game going and if she was wrong, I pulled down her pants, spanked her and she blew me. It was a fun game.

Anyway after that she ran home and told her husband she got caught kissing me. That sparked their already coming divorce and we didn't talk for 2 months. Then we connected again... still nervous of divorce issues, but we met more, talked more start fucking it was getting hot...very hot. Well I finally decided I needed a divorce and the very day I told my wife I needed a divorce (she had not kicked me out of the house believe it or not) my side bitch flipped a switch and went the other way. Fuck.

So we went from things like making out in a coffee shop that very week to nothing. Now she wont flirt. She wont talk on the phone. She will respond to 'normal' boring texts. And she will on occasion show signs of life, but not much. She is under huge pressure with her divorce, atty told her to chill and not making enough to pay the bills while she has 2 kids.

So I am trying to set the table in her mind that she has to have me regardless of what is going on with her.

I was really thinking the NLP stuff would work like wild fire as we had a few great travel experiences, great sex and great connect. I know not your typical question but still a challenge of conquering chicks minds...So I turn to you guys and your expert advice. What would you do?