I'm in college, and this hot girl in my dorm and I have been on and off flirting for the last two months. I've asked her out for dinner twice, but she's been busy. She recently called me cute, handsome, and a great guy in a fb chat but said she's really busy and would text me if she ever was free to hang out.

I've made mistakes, such as acting weird around her and admitting that i'm a shy guy (don't worry i'm trying to change that) and not escalating things when she was laughing at my jokes and playfully touching me, but I think we're past that cause she clearly likes me. The problem is she kinda seemed to say let's just be friends, which I obviously don't want. But I understand that because until now, I've been exemplifying extreme AFC behavior. Btw, I'm a AFC who just discovered PUA 2 weeks ago, but i'm slowly improving.

What's my next step/advice on how to escalate things in to get to a relationship or sexual stage?

Hey wrapper your probably going to think this is ridiculous advice but you need to concentrate on some other girl. In the back of you mind you know that you really want her, but your making it too easy for her there's no thrill of the chase on her end. You guys are relatively young so she craves a little drama.

You need to make her compete you need to find some girl or girls and make her jealous. Don't initiate the conversations and when she calls or texts don't answer immediately. Answer her like the next day or longer. When you do talk to her tell her about the girls you are dating and how much fun you are having and pay attention to her body language, you don't want to push too hard. As time goes by she will start to pursue you and then your next question is going to be how to make a move on her.

Renaissance

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that sounds like great advice but she never texts or calls me. the only time she speaks to me is when we pass by each other throughout the day or see each other in the dining hall. so if i ignore her totally for a month, then you're sure she will start talking to me?

cause i've only interacted with her for more than a couple minutes like 3 times in the last 2 months, and aside from that we really haven't seen each other at all. also, she's a freshman, and there are some other dudes after her (someone went to a dance with her). given that a couple guys in her classes and in the dorm are after her, i'm a little nervous that i'll lose her.

as a side note, i walk by her frequently throughout the day. how should i handle these brief interludes. should i just look the other way and not even acknowledge her, should i look at her and say hi, or should i do something else?

"cause i've only interacted with her for more than a couple minutes like 3 times in the last 2 months"

"i'm a little nervous that i'll lose her"

You gotta get her first before being worries you might loose her!

Sounds like oneitis.. you are idolising her, making her unreachable for yourself because you are making up excuses not to go and talk to her..

You have to make yourself the prize for her!..

Renaissance is right, go find another girl - sarge her, but yourself a social rapport and make a status for yourself with another girl.. you could even put these pictures on FB, guaranteed she'll see them..

and mate! don't worry! - like you said, she is a freshman - shes going to be around for a while..

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She is a broad in an American college. In those two months she has probably banged a half dozen other guys. Give it up. Move on. Other fish in the sea. I am sure I would find her disgusting, fat, sloppy, with bad skin, and a terrible attitude. So just nix her. Move on. Leave. Go. I think we all feel the same on this one.

Gonna have to disagree with the above poster...

But the general response idea is right on, you're getting really caught up in one girl. So there's two things I suggest.

1 - go out and party with your bros. You're in college, there are parties all over the place, I'm betting. Get a small group together and go have a good time. Whether you want to try to get other girls, while I'd recommend it, is up to you. Point is you gotta remind yourself how great a time you can have without this girl.

2 - Buy a 30 rack and invite a couple people over. Small get-togethers to drink is a great way to meet a couple new people in a dorm. All you need is 20 bucks worth of booze, your buddies can pitch in. Then you get 5-6 people together and kick back. Trick is you invite other girls. Let's say, for instance, you and 2 guy friends pitch in to get a handle of captain. You invite a few girls, including this one. Again, have fun, and don't focus on this one girl. Just socializing with everyone (don't flat out ignore her) can let her know how fun you are to be around, and if you don't hang all over her you can see at the end of the night if she wants to stick around when everybody else is ready to leave.