well ill make this really short.
For months ago i started seeing this girl. I found out she was into me so i decided to give it a try and she was awesome. however, when we started seeing each other something happened one night. Me and my friend were drinking at her place but i had to leave and left him there cause he was sorta drunk. Later i found out that they kissed and he stayed over and even slept in her bed with her (she lives in a dorm) they didnt have sex cause i know the guy and he is not very Mature in that way and she told me the same that they didnt. I really dont blame him for anything cause i never told him i was hooking up with her but she had told him that she liked me a lot but not that she was seeing me. I forgave her and Few weeks forward we started a relationship.

HEre is the thing:
I dont know if i made the right choice of getting involved with her. Til today i was in a relationship with her for about 2-3 months and trust me shes great. but the thought of her with my friend in the same bed really gives me nauseas (if it was another guy i wouldnt care but i went to school with this guy for 2 years) I told her i needed some time today and shes really mad! she tells me i cannot live in the past! this thought of her sleeping with him is killing me Am i over reacting?

what do you guys think?

Sharing a bed with another man, best friend or not is a violation of your trust. You are not overreacting. She is being immature.

I think if she slept with your friend once, it could happen again. If you're convinced that she's never going to do anything like that again, then go for it. Time heals all wounds.

After only 2-3 months however, this is a pretty bad thing to do. There's exceptions to every rule, but its not like this is a blip on the radar of a long, loyal relationship. Personally I would move on. forget time apart, break it off. Get your game back in full effect, figure out if there's something that you did that lead to this happenning and address it.

If you still want her after you've dated around, there's nothing stopping you from trying to reconcile.

If I got the story correctly, the girl wasn’t with you when she slept with this other guy. I don’t think that you can actually be judging her for that, since you weren’t together back then. And yet again you are a human being and you have your feelings and emotions. The thing is, you sound like a guy who is having a huge crush. If she is that great and you've nonetheless started this relationship why would you end it up now? Has she done anything bad while being with you? If not then maybe you should over think the situation. Nobody has ever said that relationships are something easy, their basis should be trust. If you trust her that she won’t go for another guy now… well you might just reconsider your jealousy. Jealousy only ruins you, then the person next to you and then your entire relationship. That of course is my personal opinion and experience. My advice is, if you care about her and if you have feelings for this girl just open up, talk to her, tell her how you feel and then try to get together through that thing. People need to learn how to give chances to each other. If you break up with her now, you need to know that probably later on you won’t be able to get her back even if you want, or if you do somehow, things between you and her will never be the same again. Instead of breaking up and dealing with your problems alone, try to get them solved together.
I hope it will work out for you

P.s Why don’t you try to forget about that whole thing and just enjoy the time with her? The moments that are fulfilled with anger and jealousy are lost and you can’t get them back, instead of wasting your time like this just go hug your girl and cherish what you have now, not what you could have had.

Cheers
Jez

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@jpow1981
she wasnt with me at the time. its not like she violated my trust.

@jezebel
i appreciate ur insight i recognize i have a lil crush but thats the reason im asking for advice cause i dont want my emotions blind me of what has to be done.
One point you made that really caught my eyes was the one about
That while being with me she has not done anything bad.! I just wish that little incident could dissapear from the past. Ill talk to her tonight
she says she really loves me but if i dont wanna be with her shes not gonna force me to.

Any other insight?