as the title implies, i had a girl that i became very needy with. i stopped gaming her and treated her and our situation as a relationship before we were ever in one. she realized this i guess and stopped making me a priority. for two weeks i tried hanging out with her almost every other day with no luck. she would even make plans and for one reason or another break them. i came on here, got some advice, figured some things out for myself and cut her off. stopped initiating everything for almost a week. we finally got together last night, had a great time together with some bed room fun (yes, i tapped). now im wondering what to do. my intuition is saying dont call at all, but if she makes the effort go for it...does that sound about right?

I wouldn't intiate the conversation. She is a big girl and she knows you like her. Focus on self restraint and control. You don't need her. So start showing it.

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Magnum Im impressed. Quite a contrast to your initial posts when you first hopped onto this forum. nice one.

drock608, if this is the first time youve slept with her, i find its good practice to call the next day for a comfort chat to re-assure her that you werent just using her (dont say this verbally obviously, just call to see how shes doing). if she KNOWS you like her (which I assume she does), then skip this step. girls hate feeling used and it can put them off you very quickly so just something to keep in mind (especially for those one night stands where you want to take it further, let them know you give a shit).

well, thats kinda where it gets tricky. we slept together a few times and i got a little clingy. this im pretty sure is why we had a falling out. since, this was the first time we've been alone (2 weeks have passed) and only the 5th time we've had sex. i have yet to call her or try to make contact. so at this point, should i? and yes, she is well aware that i care about her.

im thinking of just sending her an open ended text implying im thinking of her

you had sex and then didnt contact for 2 weeks??

ok thats quite a freeze out mate. ask her if she wants to get together.

if you acted a little clingy initially shes going to be on the look-out for that so play it cool and act kinda disinterested and 'what ever'. tease tease tease. give her a good time.

do you think she really likes you?

we didnt really get together for two weeks. saw her briefly twice and we talked on the phone and over fb, but it just "seemed" like she was always too busy to hang out. in all fairness, i think i may have over reacted. we are both in college and we were both really busy aside from the weekends (both of which she went out of town). we've hung out twice since then and its been alright.

I know how it is.

It's fucking annoying when a girl is showing you extreme interest but for some reason she's all of a sudden "Busy"

It's like RIGHT when you wanna hang out with a girl she's "busy"

It's bullshit.

But, it's weird, because she's giving me massive iois and we have hour long conversations, etc.

I think she's the "one"

You know, girl you can be in a relationship with - girls who think logically and not emotionally (I love girls who think logically)

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