so i been talkin to this girl for a while from the net *on the phone*, and somehow we always get into conversations where she brings up her past.. or even talks about this guy she likes who is getting locked up for 5-6 years .

Usually I assume the guys are some lucky losers who she fell for *like she telling me these guys are older than her and used to yell at her, cheat on her etc*, i know it kinda gets to me and i just want to say "why do you like these fucking loser guys who dont give a fuck about you ?" I suppose tho that it probably wouldnt be a good idea to express my feelings towards her exes huh?

To me, sounds like her exs jus could have been dudes who jus wanted ass.. ive told some prior girls this b4 and they usually see me as some judgmental guy and it gets no where. How do you guys deal with that?

I dont kiss and tell, and i dont ask about peoples history either. Whats the best thing to do? just listen and node my head about it or actually say something like "get over it, hang out with me and than consider if those guys who treated you like crap are still special."

I dont want to become the nice guy, can i just say something "fuck those guys" ? i can tell this girl's exs have been gangster type, dudes who didnt graduate highschool but got GEDs and stuff.

Im about to start trade school and didnt want to take anything serious but talkin to her lately has been growing on me, and im not trying to catch oneitis but its growing on me. She would be a catch, 23yo thats an RN, has her own house, has a daughter *i see it as wouldnt have to worry about her going out/partying since she has to be responsible*

NEVER attack the guys she likes/liked.

She'll get defensive.

change the subject entirely, or play like you're on their side and repaint them as insecure and AFC.


but why are you even ending up in such a position that she's talking about these? while the 'jealousy subplot' is a possibility, the way you're describing it she's friendzoned you.

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theres a few IOI when im talkin to her. we where suppose to meet up this past weekend but then her daughter came home *joint custody* so she wasnt free. I know when i meet here, than i can do some kino. I can tell she has a lil low self esteem with guys, im not picking on that btw. she real emo over that stuff, i figure i can get her mind off that whenever that is we get to meet and build the attraction off that.

But as far as how she brings up talkin about exs, well we usually talk about the news, and somehow the news always involves couples, and usually goes like this "well i dated a guy before who was like that, or my ex was like that, it still hurts " blah blah. Ill say something like "ic ic, well you shouldnt put yourself in that, your better than that, got a family and a daughter you dont need these type of guys who dont care about you". and she will respond something like "yeah your right, its just i grew up around these types yah know". Then usually Ill bring up "lets go hang out" and she seems interested.

ok i call her today, she picks it up crying, saying this guy got locked up *the guy she liked*, so i end the phone call tellin her ill leave her alone for now and ring her up later.

So this supposed guy she liked, is locked up now, and from her prior conversation, she said 6 years. Now i know i been talkin to her on the phone alot recently and even im starting to sense that i was just a shoulder to lean on. can i still work on this girl?

Should i just freeze her out, then wait to see if she calls me up or wait a few days and hit her up? Also i figure since she probably has a few male friends who might try to holla at her during this time.