hey blondguy, thanks for the reply, i always like your advice.
I don't think in this situation though, that I could have won with any phone game (correct me if I'm wrong).
I think maybe my mistake was not building a strong enough Rapport with her when I did see her on Saturday night.
here was our entire conversation:
me: hey nameofgirl, this is myname from last Saturday, and that I'm looking forward to hanging out with her next time she comes into town, and to keep in touch.
her: hey, I had a lot of fun hanging out with you. but i dont think i can see you again or keep in touch because im still not over my ex bf and trying to make it work. i wish you the best for your future, Bye!
me: that's tough, I understand. it was a pleasure meeting you. don't be too shy to call me if things change.
then I deleted her number.
Then I went out that night. here is the field report:
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