this girl that would just be great to hang out with but not actually hook up with sends me many IOI's and later were going to swimming/chill. how/when do i tell her in a subtle way that i want to be friends but not do anything like lead her on/be an asshole

Tough one this. Its something most PUA's miss out on. They all about teaching guys how to 'get the girl' and not how to 'get rid of the girl'!! LOL. Hopefully i can help; were just writing a series of books at my company, starting with 'Get me the Girl' then 'Keep the Girl', 'Ten Steps to get laid by your wife (relationshionship book), and finally 'getting rid of the girl'

Obviously the book will be a very specific market, but were aim to cover the whole game, and not just part 1 like the PUA society seems to do.

I learnt how to subtly let girls know that you dont want more than friendship, from the masters themselves. And no i dont mean dating guru's. I mean girls! They are brilliant at this stuff, because they have to do it with a majority of the guys that get hooked up on them.

1. Bring friends along with you so that its not just me and her. If your intention was to get together you wouldnt bring your mates.

2. Use words like 'mate' 'buddy' 'pal' on the end of sentences.

3. Ask her for relationship advice with some girl your into.

4. Tell her how shes a good mate and you enjoy spending time with her.

At the moment she probably thinks your just being naive and missing her IOI's. So she will try harder. Start acting like a 'mate' to her. If she ups the IOI's then you will have to tell her straight. But from what i have written its too early for that.

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