Hey guys, new to posting, but I've been lurking around for a while now. Haven't really needed help but I've fallen to somewhat of a funky situation and I was looking for some advice. Anyways here it goes, thanks in advance!

Background: I'm currently a sophomore in college now and I'm involved in a competitive sports team. I'll keep it short and sweet, I kiss-closed the coach's daughter, HB9, and I kinda shrugged her off pretty cold afterward. Fast forward a year now and she forgave me for it and its all good. She has a boyfriend, but its a long distance relationship so I find this somewhat of a respectable challenge. For maybe the past two weeks or so, the only times I would be able to see her would be at practice... so the time spent has been really limited. The practices are only about two hours long and I'm pretty focused on my sport so there really hasn't been much room to work on the game. I took the approach of showing interest (building rapport) one day, then completely ignoring the next. This has been going on for about a week now and its producing pretty good results.

Around yesterday she took off her hair tie and wrapped it around my wrist, which is always a good IOI (The last time she did that was the year before when she was crazy for me) and lately shes been talking about her regrets with her boyfriend etc etc. Anyways I have a quick couple of questions that I would like your input on...

1) Should I continue to wear this hair tie during the next practices or do I remove it and not bring it all together? She will definitely notice if I have it on or not. And if removing it is the best course of action, what would my response be to her questioning?

2) Before I fly back home for the holidays I'm spending the night over at her house. Her father (coach) and I are really cool and her mom loves me and I actually spent a couple of days because of Thanksgiving with them. I couldn't go any further than just building rapport because I had a teammate with me there who c*** - blocked like there was no tomorrow. Anyways, most likely we wont be able to go anywhere outside her house. Any advice/ideas on anything particular to say when I meet up with her? Should I mention anything about her current relationship? For now, I plan on watching a movie together and just building kino from there. Say something cute and hopefully move forward. Any help will be great, and I will for sure keep you guys updated.

Cheers,
Chex

First of all nice job so far

1) Wear it once and make sure she notices you wearing it.
The next time dont wear it and see if she notices.

2) I dont know. i hope someone else does cause im eager to learn it as well.

Thanks for your comment!

Well I know for a fact she will definitely notice. The next day after the practice she gave me the hair tie I wore it again. She definitely noticed it, but I didnt want to give her this instinctive idea that she "owned" me so I took it off everytime before I fought (at practice) and she asked why.

I gave her an obvious lame excuse (which I made sure she would notice) to neutralize that and keep her questioning to herself

Also, for the plans this Friday, I plan on at one point just being a little distant and uneasy until she will ask why. Then, ill reply with something like this,

"Idk, sometimes I feel like a piece of meat when I'm with you. You make me feel like I'm just there to provide comfort to you since you don't have your boyfriend there to give it to you. I'm sorry but I'm not the type of person to be treated like that."

Hopefully, this will induce her to possibly qualify herself to me and open up more? Any thoughts on this? Or should I dont mention the boyfriend at all?

I think things are obviously going well, and you seriously risk losing it with that line of yours. It seems very harsh and you're basically calling her out on her actions, forcing her to take responsibility, and making her feel guilty about her relationship with her boyfriend. None of these things are that great an idea, and they certainly won't make ANYBODY open up to you more. Just continue with what you're doing, get some kino going next time you see her, and don't overplan every situation too much. If you know you have attraction, just escalate - there's no need to play silly games/neg her or any of that shit. Escalate, do a bit of push/pull, and you'll be fine.

As a side point, Qualification is the the twofold idea that 1. you mention positive traits to a girl to get her to say that she has them, thus getting her to prove herself to you, and to get her to act the way you want her to. For example, say you like a outgoing girls, she agrees, she'll be more likely to play a game or go dance on the stage with you, etc. OR, you simply ask a girl something like "name 3 positive/interesting things about yourself apart from beauty/looks. Same basic concept. And 2. When a girl actually does something good, like gives you compliance, or gives you a compliment, or has an interesting character trait that you find attractive, you say something like "you know when we first met I wasn't sure...but actually you seem like a really cool person deep down." This is you qualifying her, for comfort building once you have attraction.

Thanks for the advice,

I think it'll be smart to just be myself this weekend. Ill definitely work on using some push/pull and ill have an easy time with the kino during the movie. Any thoughts about the hair tie situation?

Update: It's definitely on for Friday so I'm pretty excited to get this going on... as for tomorrow's practice I dont know if I should wear the hair tie or not... any thoughts?