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I really like his style and i think it matches closely to my own.
Sadly enough most stuff out there seems rather advanced.
Can anyone direct me to his basics ? Like where to start ?
I'm a massive fan of his as of late so I think I can break down his basics for you.
Most PU material, e.g. MM, has some kind of structure that revolves around cold approaches at bars where you open, neg to bring their value down, get some IOIs, then kino escalate, build comfort, and seduce.
Adam's point is - why not make things easier on yourself by going into those approaches "warm" instead of "cold"
How to do that?
First off, arrive at the bar or club with women already - female friends you either already know, or you have picked up through day game. You do not game these women, you LJBF them first, and then take them out as friends, and just friends. They are your social proof as soon as you walk in the door (and although I haven't heard Adam say it, I'm sure you can use them as what MM calls "pivots" too, to actually open up sets for you).
Once you make your entrance, the second part is to open as many sets as possible right away with "functional" openers - e.g. "u guys know where the toilets are?" "is this the only bar or is there one downstairs?" etc. Get the info, quickly introduce yourself, and then EJECT after like 30 seconds - 1 minute. Do this a lot. Then get back to your main group and have a fun time.
NOW. When you finally approach that 2-set of HB10s, what's happening? As you walk over, the eyes of like, 80% of the whole club are fixated ON YOU. You look like some kind of fucking rockstar. As you're doing your opener, they're not thinking "uh god when is this shmuck gonna piss off" they're thinking "OMG who IS this guy who EVERYBODY IN THE CLUB knows?" Instant social proof before you've even run a single bit of game.
Now, even if you get blown out of that set, you still have all those other sets to re-engage, and they will be far more receptive to you because you still have all that social proof you just built, and they are "warm" - they're already met you before so are gonna like you more through the "mere exposure effect".
One opener he suggests a lot is to ask "so I've spoken to almost everybody in here and they literally have nothing to say for themselves. Gimme 3 interesting facts about yourself." Since you have a lot of social proof already, she's gonna start instantly proving herself to you, without you even having had to neg or anything.
Final point. Adam re-works the idea of what negging is for. In MM, it's to knock her down a peg basically and get her down to your "level" of social proof. Adam says that the way to think of the interaction is as follows:
First build rapport (that's what your opener is for, and then you want to transition to just talking and joking normally about whatever. As a side note, Gunwitch says the best way to build rapport is to assume it, i.e. just start talking to her like she's a friend already).
Then BREAK rapport. This is what a neg is for. You're having a fun time and joking around, and then you just disagree with something she said, do something a bit inappropriate, or use a classic neg you like. The point is to have her try and build that rapport back up again. Once she starts doing that, she will invest emotionally in the interaction with you. Once she does this, her subconscious is thinking "why am I emotionally invested in this interaction? Well, I only do that with guys I'm attracted to, so I must therefore be attracted to this guy!" Once you sense that she is building that rapport back up, you want to reward her for that behaviour. Do this by IOIing and/or kino escalating.
So, in conclusion:
1. Build friendships with female friends and take them out with you when you sarge.
2. Do functional openers w lots of sets for about 30s-1min when you enter a venue
3. Build rapport, then break it and get the girl to rebuild and invest to build attraction
CHAT