I've been wondering how come a old lay or an old girlfriend to a friend feels like tabu for a pickup?

is it all afc thinking that "bros' before ho's" cause a person will not let go, or that; that person has a past with the girl? how can you handle a likewise situation in both parts?

this is just a opinion question.

Ask the friend bluntly. Dont listen to what they day, read there reaction. I think this situation is quite ad hoc. It very varrient.

What would be worse is not telling them.

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I see a couple reasons why people dislike their past girls being picked up by friends. This is pretty specific to AFC's, though some experienced guys might have these same feelings. Let me say beforehand that I have no problem if my buddies pick up my past girls, but in my AFC days I did.

Some Reasons:
1. Guys often believe that to have gotten into a relationship is a sign of the girl taking a genuine interest in them as a person, or the existence of some deeper connection, because obviously not all girls want to date them yet this special one did. Now, when a guy invests lots of his time in a woman he probably sees the enjoyable relationship as a return on his investment, and so when his friend comes along and snatches her up with seemingly less effort, it creates the appearance that he is simply a better investor. To understand why that is not a good feeling, imagine that you worked your ass off for 3 years to get the raise you wanted. Now imagine that a coworker who was only with the company for 6 months got the same raise. Doesn't make you feel too good about yourself and your abilities, does it?

2. Many guys like to rank themselves among their friends, and for another friend to achieve the same thing as them devalues their accomplishment. Probably don't need a long description of this one. This can apply to non-AFC's as well, who may have worked pretty hard to pu a girl, all the while DHV'ing their lazy friend.

3. Many guys quite simply don't get over their ex's very easily, and may even hold some feelings for the girl for years afterward. They may feel that they have shared some special bond with the girl and that their friend dating her (or anyone in some cases) will tarnish that bond or their memories of that girl.

People can have personal reasons though, and just plain jealousy. Personally I think that "bros before hoes" seems to mean you should remain friends with someone even if they want to date your girl.

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