So tonite i met this chick i started talking to her and we hit it off well..

Needless to say i got her keys and i held on to them and she let me drive her car.

so afterwards i was like hey candice come upstairs bc i want to talk to you...

she Said No... i followed all the rules...

and she was like no... i was like ok w/e

the thing is i think that i let her get ahead of the conversation and all that nonsense...

she was awesome...

I was told that she just got out of a relationship that had ended badly... but that is NO EXCUSE...

I think that it was bc i didnt try to close it at the earliest convienence... help please... is it a get in get out type of thing... or what...

i think the main mistake you made was saying

"candice come upstairs bc i want to talk to you"

You lost the fun/flirty vibe and in her mind it would of been getting too serious, because she knew why you waned her to come upstairs, and we do aswell

You gotta keep it fun,

"hey candice, come up, ill show you them crazy videos i was talking about earlier"

"hey candice, come up, i wanna show you my pet crocodile"

the first one you have to plant the idea about the videos early in the interaction, so say that you watched some amazing videos earlier, and thet she should definately see them.

For the 2nd one, only do this if you know the K close is on, because you can take her up, and shell be like "so wheres the crocodile then" and you just say there isnt one and kiss her

Yeah, definitely don't be so obvious about your intentions, she needs plausible deniability about your intentions. There's also the possibility that you didn't establish enough of a rapport with her. Didn't establish enough comfort, hadn't had enough kino yet, maybe you hadn't even kissed her yet and elevated too far too fast. You didn't really give us enough info.

we sat at the table i stuck out my hand and she grabbed back i played the ESP... and did some neg's she massaged my leg and all this non sense... she gave me the do me eyes and i wasnt thinking about closing... how is a way i can not forget about closing...

You offered her the contract to buy the Caddy without offering her a test drive. She kicked the tires around a bit but that's not going to drive her emotions high enough to want to sign the dotted line. She's got her finances to worry about. She's got colors to think about. What will her neighbors think? What will her boss think? First, get her excited by having her sit on that leather seat and pushing the pedal to the medal and all those other thoughts go out the window. She's thinking, "I NEED THIS F'ing Caddy NOW!"

It's AFTER the test drive that the salesman can start thinking about the "take away" sales pitch. "Oh well, this Caddy's probably not the right car for you. I've got this great looking Hyundai back here . . ."

spot on.


kasabi, i like your analogy...a nice and literal example of buying temperature.