Hey there,

I'm gonna try to make a long story short, but some details must be shared.
Anyway...

First of all, the only reason I don't say its an HB10 is because of what Jude Law said in 'Alfie" : "The best grade for a woman is 'A' minus" ... there is always a better one
I'm not desperate, but there is the potential of becoming desperate, so I don't want to screw this.

I think I'm on the right track, I just need that extra something.

So, I've noticed tons of IOIs (deep eye contact, always smiling at me, touching, when we're in a group walking somewhere she always walks next to me etc.)

We go together to college so I pretty much see her everyday, which makes it difficult, or at least I dont like these kind of situations.
Most of the time she answers to my texts right away, with lots of smiles in it.

So, it all seems that this thing could work.
I need some advice on kino and becoming attractive in her eyes.

I don't want to go in the friendzone, I know I'm not... yet! We've never touched any of the topics mentioned in the "you're in the friendzone" (or something like that) topic. She doesn't tell me stories about other men, exboyfriends and stuff, nor does she tells me her women-problems or so. I just don't want to go there
but I also don't want to seem needy and stuff.

How do I make my intentions very clear without being 'agressive', needy and so on. I mean I think I've made them clear already, but maybe not enough...

We're going on a nice little party (some chilled winetasting) next saturday. I'd guess that is a perfect time for 'some action'
so, any advice?
thanks
c

p.s.: of course, what about the "good judging" part in the title... so, the simple question is, do i get it right that she's interested?

From what you wrote, it would seem as if she were interested. However, you say that you don't want to be aggressive. Well why not? Throughout my experience it's been the most effective tool. I would, at the wine tasting, just pull her aside and tell her what's on your mind and that you can't help but kiss her. Kiss her and see what happens. Whenever I have used this type of strategy it has worked.

If there's some specific reason why you can't be aggressive, let it be known so we can all give advice directed to the circumstance.

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<Jac>

hey Jac, and everyone

first of all, thanks for the reply.
the main reason i dont't want to be agressive is that we'll be together in one group until we graduate in the summer of 2010... we are very few in my program, its not like 100 or more, its 15 people.

so if she turns me down.... u get what im saying.

maybe it would just be awkward for a while and than everybody would forget it... i dont know.

plus, i really like her, its not just that i wanna hook up with her and thats it. and thats why its so different than before.
u know when u dont really care about the girl, or the outcome of your 'hunt', you just do whatever and whenever you like. im sure im not only one having difficulties with girls u actually have feelings for.
feelings? is it a lost case from now on?

best
c

Honestly, after learning about the situation, I would just tell her what's on your mind. She may turn you down (which is unlikely since it seems as if she has a lot of interest), but if she does you'd still be in the same boat that you were in prior. There also wouldn't be negative consequences because if she does tell anyone it will just make you sound like you have confidence.

Hope this helps.

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<Jac>

yo yo, hey

the evening went perfectly well, i must say!
she was actually kino-ing (lol ). touching my hand, leaning on my shoulder, poking me.
always laughing at my stupid jokes, and i did tell some really bad ones just to test it, cause usually im a funny guy and people do laugh when i entertain
but yeah, she laughed at everything.
on the way back downtown i got a kiss on the cheeks for no particular reason. just out of the blue.

than we all sat in a bar, where she continued kino-ing. i held her hand, u know, the 'girlfriend' way (lol) but than she didnt want that. wtf?

so i lost my confidence for that evening, therefore no k-close or anything.
anyway, i think it was a pretty good night.

now u might say, if had played it right, there would have been a k-close... but im not quite the pua yet.

we're going out on friday, just the two of us.
im pretty confident, cause we've been texting ever since, like everyday, but still kinda' nervous of course.
so, this time im not asking for advice on what to do, but rather what NOT TO DO.
you know, when Will Smith in Hitch says to the guy in the cab at the beginning of the movie: "from now on, your job is not mess it up!" and the guy gets scared. now that's how i feel now...

thanks

yo yo, hey

the evening went perfectly well, i must say!
she was actually kino-ing (lol ). touching my hand, leaning on my shoulder, poking me.
always laughing at my stupid jokes, and i did tell some really bad ones just to test it, cause usually im a funny guy and people do laugh when i entertain
but yeah, she laughed at everything.
on the way back downtown i got a kiss on the cheeks for no particular reason. just out of the blue.

than we all sat in a bar, where she continued kino-ing. i held her hand, u know, the 'girlfriend' way (lol) but than she didnt want that. wtf?

so i lost my confidence for that evening, therefore no k-close or anything.
anyway, i think it was a pretty good night.

now u might say, if had played it right, there would have been a k-close... but im not quite the pua yet.

we're going out on friday, just the two of us.
im pretty confident, cause we've been texting ever since, like everyday, but still kinda' nervous of course.
so, this time im not asking for advice on what to do, but rather what NOT TO DO.
you know, when Will Smith in Hitch says to the guy in the cab at the beginning of the movie: "from now on, your job is not mess it up!" and the guy gets scared. now that's how i feel now...

thanks

sorry for posting it twice. the site said it didnt work the first time

when the site comes up with an error, it doesn't mean anything, it still posted.


anyway...

so....this girl is all over you....like totally....and you didn't do anything?.......


what the fuck, dude?

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thanks for the input...