Since I've only posted sparingly on this forum and a while ago, let me introduce myself.

Hi.

Good, now that's taken care of.

My problem is this: I'm no longer in the position of a lot of people on this forum who are in high school or university, who have a hell of a lot of time to go out to bars and parties etc. on weekdays and weekends. I just started law school here in London and I probably have maybe one night every weekend where I could spend a few hours out somewhere. This puts severe restrictions on what I can accomplish.

What I really need is some advice about how to squeeze the most out of, for example: time travelling, walking around, and general day game, and also how to structure a night so I get the most out of it without being "that guy who's hitting on everyone in the bar."

Finally, it seems to me like the mantra of not inviting girls on "dates" like a cup of coffee or a meal is a great idea, when you actually can invite them to some kind of fun party with your friends, etc. However people with a lot of work don't really have time to do that kind of thing - surely there's a way to get coffee with a girl without it being an "interview" or whatever?

You should change your perspective on that one. Talk with everybody. Try to be social. Nobody will blame you for being social. Looking at you from a distance they won't even think of what you are doing. Work the social circle.

Going out to sarge doesn't mean going caveman on every gilrl out there. It will appear like you are flirting with everyone (to the very few that would bother to look at what you are doing). If you just talk and laugh with girls and guys alike, moving from one group to the other, you will appear social.

As for day game, well go nuts. Nothing wrong there.

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epic introduction !

i agree ... work out your social circle first and cultivate it gently. If you don't do it and go sarging ( even sarging alone ) alot of people will see it like your are trying to get a girl AKA try hard. Social circle increases your social value ... increased social value means increased respect from other people.

Hey guys

Just read this thread. I relate with what you guys are saying. First, like blonde guy, I'm pretty much into my career in London and don't have much time to spend going out, throwing parties etc. Secondly, having moved from abroad into London for a new job 1.5 years ago, my social circle is still growing. Last, from my point of view busy ambitious guys like us just have to srike a balance between developing relationships with friends of friends who can introduce you to new people etc and meeting new women in clubs etc that you take home.

Btw, I am looking for wingmen in London. PM me if interested.

Filipe

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