First of all hi, this is my first post here. I'm 21 years old, am a student etc, etc. I'll cut to the chase.

There's this girl, who is 30 btw, that I've been spending some time with lately. I've been gaming her for the last 3-4 days and I know that it is working. Tonight things got a little strange and we talked about the whole matter. I know for a fact that she likes me, and she knows I like her too. It was different because all of the talk was not uncomfortable but rather comfortable. The things is that even though she does like me, she just can't get over the age difference. She's worried about how other people might perceive this whole thing. Recently a close friend of her has talked to her about what's going on between us that's made her extremely uncomfortable. I suppose we could have had this talk some time later, after she had some time to get over that talk with her friend. Anyway, she told me that she wished I was older etc. But also said that she doesn't want things to get further, that she wanted to continue having great time together etc. I reckon she's afraid of social pressure.

My question is: How do I deal with it? I've tried telling her that age doesn't matter as long as the spark is there, as long as she doesn't feel it when we're spending time together (she doesn't). No matter what I did, she won't budge. I've considered cutting it off completely or giving it a little more time and continue gaming her somewhat easier. Any help with this is very greatly appreciated, I would love this to work out.

Thanks in advance

Quite frankly you be better off stopping while you are ahead here. She has told you she is not comfortable with the age difference. And the more you pressure her to overlook it the more likely she will loose interest in you. Not all older women are okay with being with younger guys.

i totally agree..... you maybe could get sex for a few times but you certainly won't get a relationship.

I would neg her '' hey take your time to get over this age thing ... i wait '' and then leave her alone with your self esteem etc intact . Just DLV her before you take the exit.

if she liked you enough, age wouldnt matter, i promise.

when you like someone enough you cannot stop thinking about them, not their age.

something i say to younger girls if i think they are gona have an issue with my age or if they imply/hint that i may be too old for them...i say 'you know i would never date someone of your age, until I realized that we connect with our souls and not our age.....but dont get any ideas cos this doesn't necessarily mean im going to go out with you!'. (something like that anyway)

recent girl of mine had serious age gap issues...i launched a preemptive strike and sent her a txt msg saying 'hey if age is an issue then lets just be friends.'...few days later she asked ME out on a date. if i hadnt sent her the LJBF msg she would have sent me one...guaranteed.