Hi, I'm 17 years old and I'm new to the pick up scene. My problem refers mostly on school social skills and dealing with jealousy. I live in a small town so I can say I can easily become a cool kid but I don't know how, plus students aren't that smart or mature to apply PUA matterial.

I have some popularity but the fact that a guy with higher popularity than me amogs me all the time makes me go crazy. It burns me when he is telling lies and other people aren't noticing because of his "acting" skills. I'm desperate for help because its a living hell for me to be with that guy for one more year in my class.
My mind was free this summer but now jealousy doesnt leave me alone and I'm thinking things like "He's better than me" and so.My biggest mistake is that I told him that I know what he is doing and from then he sees me as an opponent no matter what. Please help me, jealousy paralyzes and frustrates me.


PS: I know it isnt a PUA problem but I need very much the advice of people who know the social mechanisms. So please help me.

Heya! Now, what you have here is actually a very interesting subject. Thing is, if someone see you as an opponent they try to win, that's the definition of it. But what makes a contestant want to quit?

That is by loosing the opponent. So in practice, you can make him stop doing that by stop competing with him. But as you already are with him a lot, you can't ignore him. That doesn't help. Instead, try complementing him! Tell him how awesome he is, how cool he is and what you feel like at that time. By doing this for a bit he surely will be tired of picking on you, because let's face it. Complements are great, but who really wants to receive them... at all times?

- Exerio

Thank you very much Exerio for answering but my ego is in the way because If I start compliment him I think I will loose social value in people that are in my social circle for some years and also I want very much to win him because it has became something personal. The problem is that he is a natural and I am just good and developing.

I apply my PUA skills in places where I am anonymous and I just don't care if I fail.. like having a second life,but now it has to do with people that I meet everyday. So is it better to have egoless thinking and be more risky at your social circle ?

Why would you risk anything? You are just giving him complements, you are not trying to bang him.

However, if it makes you feel like loosing faces names work as well.
"Heeeeey cutiepie! Want to go out to take a pee?:)"

You probably shouldn't say exactly that line though, that is my insane form of humor:) However, you should be able to grasp the point of that example.

- Exerio

I didnt mean complimenting him is risky,my mistake. In the last question I'm asking for advice, but its ok.