i met a HB 9 about a week ago, we hit it off well. By the 3rd time seeing her i kissed her goodnight. the only problem is i get the feelings of mixed signals. on one hand we went on a night hike and she held my hand/ threw her arms around me, on the other she doesn't look to interested when other people are around and is hard to get a hold of on the phone.

Im not terrible at getting girls but my game is shaky at best. i dont know how to Separate this girl from her friends (she lives in a dorm) or what to next.

also on a side note, around my college i am known as a fairly well known dj which puts up high value but i have problems keeping a girl interested, so i just need a push in the correct direction

Dude I am about to tell you something that will change your life.

You don't need her.

I know you feel like you do need her, but you don't. I know that you think you don't know what to do, but really you do.

All you have to do is trust your gut.

You have to ask your brain, what do I do next.

After you accept the fact that it is O.K. to be boring then you can accept yourself for who you are.

I am afraid that if you become focused on learning how to be interesting, after you gain confidence, you won't be able to "be yourself".

I think you should be satisified with being boring, and just keep working towards goals.

Only a real man can attract a women. And being boring will attact a boring girl, and guess what? You will be compatible.

If you don't want a boring girl, then you need to accept yourself for your flaws. I think you should be O.K. with being boring. In fact I think you should preach it.

Any time you meet a girl let her know. Hey I am boring, my friends tell me that all the time. Or whoever tells you that. Let her know. She will be more accepting of you, and respect you more because of your honesty.

Just be satisfied with what you get from the girl, and be a stable rock for her. The reason why people fail using this method is because they give up on themselves. You need to be secure in your borness and stableness. You need to be confident in who you really are. After you can be positive about your personalitly traits other people are allowed to love you.

I think that if you learn this game you will have to unlearn it if you want to be in a serious relationship.

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See i usually go off the gut and it works pretty well, but i get to a point where i just cant keep the connection going. I always had a problem letting out my words.

but boring doesn't cut it for me. It doesn't fit the lifestyle im pursuing to live. many people tell me im a great person/soul but i just feel like there is something missing and want to fill that gap i felt like i always have had.

Yea dude. I know EXACTLY how you feel.

If you are like me then you are projecting your feelings about yourself onto characteristics you contain.

It works like this. I used to think that I needed to be funny in order to get a girl.

So I learned how to be funny. Guess what? I didn't get the girl.

So I figured I needed to be understanding to get the girl. So I worked for 6 months on how to respect and understand another person. I still didn't get any GOOD girls.

Eventually I learned to accept myself for who I am, and now I am O.K. with not getting the girl. I am happy with this. Sure it is frustrating to try to bang some HOT chick who keeps stringing me a long. But so what?

It doesn’t affect who I am as a person. Even though she doesn’t want to sleep with me, I won’t take offense. It is her who needs a tattooed thug to give her dick. I will keep my penis in my hands and wait for a girl I trust to come, so I don’t have to play these games that lead to self destruction.

My main problem is that I only sleep with girls who practically throw themselves at me, and I think it is because I have complete control over them.

The subconscious belief I have is that I am stopped from intercourse because I am a moral guy. I don't like to sleep with girls who I don't feel safe and secure with.

This website makes people believe that you HAVE to sleep with girls in order to be a man. They are so full of shit.

You just need to accept your weaknesses as yourself. That is the road you will end up on eventually.

--Magnum45

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all you need to do is escalate further,
when your in a group dont be afraid to show interest in her like dont be sketchy, because if your acting pretty legit as in confident with yourself and your relationship with the girl, she will follow suit

as far as getting ahold of her on the phone try to flip the script and make her contact you, or if you call her and are going to invite her out dont ask her what shes doing tell her what she should be doing (hanging out with you)

hope that helps a little bit