Been gaming this gal for about a month now...k-closed a few times in the last week...she's been over at my place twice and fooled around but havent f-closed just yet (last time she was over at my place the river was running if you know what i mean).

Went to this big outdoor party over the w-end, she got a lift with me. i didnt see much of her the whole night as I was on my own mission and she was with her friends...when i did see her though she seemed kind of 'off'. im not sure if she was genuinely being off or not. i got back to my place after the party, gave her a call and asked if she was ok for a lift home (she planned to get a lift home with her friend, I was just making sure she hadnt lost her friend or something as this party was a looong way from home)...i told her to let me know when she gets home from the party so we could meet up, she didnt.

Now i really dont want to give her the usual AFC question... 'why have you been so distant/off in the past 2 days?'. I would rather find out what she wants by issuing a request and seeing if she complies...eg. telling her to come over to my place, if she does its probably still on, if she makes up some silly excuse then i tell her to contact me when she's free (put ball in her court)...and if she doesnt contact me then i forget about her.

Funny thing is, the night before this party we were lying in my bed and she was telling me about the exact day she first became attracted to me and how much she 'liked' me. Even her boss told me what a 'crush' she has on me. In 24 hrs its strange that she is behaving like this...

How would you go about this and find out whether its on or off? Im thinking about telling her to come over to my place and check if she complies...

I say get physical. It looks like ur putting her on a pedestal by doing too many nice things for her. U may end up with LJBF. I say tell her to come over, don't ask but tell her. The second she steps in go caveman. Push yo extreme kino till you're both horny n f-close rite where u are or carry her to the bedroom. A bottle of wine must also help both of you to loosen up.

i dont think im doing 'too many nice things'....im extremely cocky with her and tease the hell out of her constantly (in a playful way making her laugh of course). twice i had her calling me at 2am in the morning wanting to come over to my place and sleep over...she did but as i said couldnt do much cos of that dam river.

i also make a point never to give in to her little requests and threats. im fairly solid when it comes to that.

anyway thanks for the post...hope it transpires into a f-close indeed.

looks like the options are to either to invite her over...or freeze her out for a few days and wait for her to get back to me (after all the last thing i said to her was to let me know when she is home from the party...and she did not).

This is rather usual, you are using too much time. The time she were over, if you didn't have sex you could at least talk about it. I believe that is why she is starting to get distant.

- Exerio

basically when she was over at my place things didnt get further than just 'fooling around' due it being that time of the month. The very next night she rocked up at my place at 3am and slept at my place, nothing happened as we both passed out as soon as she got my house (she was in a mild car crash and a bit shaken up).

the next day she was still normal, not distant at all....only that night she started being distant (at the party).

Could elaborate on your above quote?