I'm a 26 year old and live in Zurich, Switzerland. I'm originally from Santa Monica, California so I have a typical laid-back surfer personality.

With that said, here is the problem:

I teach English and invited a girl from a class to come to a party with me the following weekend. She agreed and we met at my apartment then went to the party. At the party, we were talking and got along really well. She sent me a lot of IOIs including as point blank telling me that she liked me. There was a lot of contact between us, but before I could make a move she left so that she could catch her train back. I walked her out, but unlike in America you always give three kisses on the cheek to say goodbye. So we did this, but I think both of us wanted to kiss each other. She even stopped as she was walking down the steps and blew me a kiss.

Date 2 (this past Thursday): I invited her out for sushi and again we connected. I should have said this before, but kino is never a problem for me but sometimes I am a bit shy to actually kiss the girl. After dinner we had a couple of drinks, but before I knew it she again bolted to catch the last train. This time I was pretty upset because I wanted to at the very least kiss her.

Here is where I need advice: On Friday morning, after our date, I invited her to a club on Saturday. She didn't respond to my email on Friday which was strange because we had been emailing everyday. She finally responded on Saturday night around 11 PM and asked if I was at the club, if it was fun and that she really enjoyed sushi night. Since she hadn't emailed me back sooner I decided to freeze her out and not respond to her message. I went to the club had fun without her. So today she messages me again around 2 PM and asks what's going on and if I'm angry. How should I now respond?

You guys are awesome and I really appreciate any advice you could give.

Cheers!

Hi Iw2bh

Seems to me that you've not actually done a great deal wrong here save for not actually kissing her.

If you move to kiss her she will respond, I know it and you know it so there's nothing to fear. A lot of guys seem to think they risk losing the girl if they go in for the kiss but in my experience the opposite is true; you lose the girl by waiting too long to make the move.

Go for the kiss and if she refuses, assume that it's to do with the location or her current state and not with her interest in you. You can always try again a little later in a different venue or when your gut tells you to do it.

Good move with the freeze out. She knew to get in touch with you earlier I suspect but I'd guess that she panicked because of the choice of venue. A club is seen as a high risk seduction venue for a girl and although she wants you to seduce her alot of girls still get scared by this still. Her texting you at 23:00 shows she wanted to be there and was clinging on to the hope that she could recover and actually meet. Or she's just checking up that you're not hooking up with someone else!

To respond straight away could have blown her out by seeming too eager to meet up. By freezing her out you show value, you don't need her around there are loads of girls at the club!

Whatever you do, don't be angry. A PUA is never phased by a girl because he's so confident. Bust her on her poor time-keeping/social skills or that she was still free enough at 23:00 on a Saturday to be texting you instead of out having a good time. Just make sure it's in a funny tone.

She'll meet with you again so long as you play it cool. When she does, don't give her a choice, just grab her and kiss her!

Panache

Thank you for taking the time to give me such a well thought out answer. Seriously. The only girls that really give me the trouble are the ones I really like. It's really great to have people out there like you guys who can talk openly about something that most guys shy away from because of ego. An ego is nice, but being happier in life is nicer.

Try Riga, Lativa. They have an old town like Zurich. A river that runs through town like Zurich. The similarities end there though . I guarantee you one thing though. Within your first month you will have a girl that you NEVER see in Santa Monica or Zurich. I promise you that!

i know this is off topic but regarding your above statement...this is probably because your game naturally changes completely with a girl that you develop feelings for. Its one of the hardest things to master...your emotions. Im sure many guys on this forum have found it an absolute breeze to seduce a girl that theyre are not really into. Your confidence shines through because you really do not give a dam about them. However as soon as you start 'liking her' your 'needyness' and over-careful behavior starts shining through...so just watch your actions closely when you really like the girl and start believing that she's not 'all that' and if things dont work out there are a million more. you want to seduce her in the same way that you do to a girl that you dont really care about.