Hi Guys,

I've recently been introduced to PUA techniques, have read the Game and some Ross Jeffries techniques. I hope you can help me out with this situation:

Some time ago, before I knew about PUA strategies etc. I was interested in a girl from work. After she made initial contact, we established a good friendly relationship after which my attraction to her grew. Due to my lack of knowledge on proper strategies, I had little self confidence in this situation which made me act different to her later on (too cautious hence too quite).. After a while I convinced myself to make a move, which was too lame. I just confessed my feelings to her in a dramatic way, to which she reacted confused and surprised and the deadly sentence that she was flattered but considered me to be a friendly colleague.

A guy from work later told me about NLP techniques, anchoring etc. and was willing to anchor me to her by bringing me up in a conversation about feelings. This did not work really cause I didnt do it myself ofcourse.

Later on a friend of mine, who was already somewhat experienced with sarging taught me some methods and made me read the game and other techniques. The girl left work however and moved away.

Now I also moved and surprisingly I found out she lives in the same city as I do, even in my neighbourhood. So my question is whether you can use PUA techniques after you've been rejected by a girl in the past. I feel different with using the techniques in stead of with random girls I don't know.

As I heared from my former colleague she did respond a bit to NLP, but has to be opened up cause she says she doesnt really know what kind of guy she wants, but is a bit frustrated that she's single for a long time...

Anyways, any advice on a strategy?

Greets

Dolce

Heya, there is no problem with applying the techniques. Just do it the way you would in another situation.

- Exerio

How long has she been in this new area? If it hasn't been long then a familar face would be welcome. The down side is thats a quick way to the "friends zone" if you don't make the relationship clear.

The nice thing about moving is you get to reinvent yourself. I would take this time to do just that. Go out and make new friends, get friendly with the staff at the places you visit. I talk to everyone, everywhere. You would think that I goto the gym 24/7 because when I walk in they know my number and name but the truth is I don't go nearly as much as I should. But I talk to the staff and oddly enough, knowing the staff in a place give DHV.

Now I say use this time to reinvent yourself because this girl has rejected the old you, you need to make her second guess her first impression.

The original mPUA:
Mike Damone (Fast Times at Ridgemont High): Yeah! The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude.

Thanks for the replies.
She has been in this situation for about 3 months now, based on what I heared from somebody who still has little contact with her she is still adjusting to life in the new city...
Good advice on the reshaping of yourself, I'll do that...

By the way do you guys always use the same PUA techniques or do you adjust it to the girl/situation? With popular girls in groups I tend to use the negging and Style group technique...

If you make her think of you as a "new-and-improved-guy" you should have no trouble steering clear of the friend zone.

But as people have said before, make sure you let her know that you're not in it for friends