Hey, guys
ok heres the problem. So im a senior in highschool this year, and ive been in the game since..well about freshmen year. so ive been doing this stuff for awhile, making a few mistakes, but ultimately it helped me out a ton, i was clueless b4 lol. any who there's this girl in my class that i have liked forever..she was the one that got me all into this stuff lol..anyways years back wen i was first learning all of this stuff i use to always try to pursue her..and ove course that didn't work out so great..so ive moved on and had my share..but the weird thing is now is that this year she seems to be always initiating conversations and trying to talk to me all the time for random reasons...i have even notice that she has used excuses in touching me and things like that..i was sorta standoffish bc i know she has a bf..but that's the only reason cuz i would date her if she didn't...anyways i need your guys help cuz i think i am messing things up for myself...at first i was standoffish, but now i sit by her whenever i can,she seems to like it but should i be more of a challenge or am i doing the right thing?..oh i also would love some ways i could use some kino during our conversations during classes that wouldn't make her uncomfortable or anything..oh yeah and the bf thing i need good ways to get rid of that..shes a really cool girl so i don't want to unnecessarily mess this up Thanks GUYS and IM ready for a GOOD YEAR!

First of all, this sounds like oneitis. You've been eying this girl for 4 years? Look how quickly she changed your frame! Acknowledge it and realize that your susceptible to being placed in the friend zone. Also, realize that you choose to allow yourself to be placed in the friend zone. Its like giving up your sexual advances in favor of an easier, sexless route.

Lead: As interesting and exciting as it may be to hang out with her, don't lose your position as the man. Don't go completely out of your way to sit with her. Call her over to sit with you. Also, just because you like her, don't stop talking to other girls. This will show her that you are a commodity and that she may be missing her opportunity to be with you.

Kino: Just touch her like you would touch your friends during conversation. Pats on the back, light touches on the shoulders and back of the hand to the stomach. Hands and face are acceptable too as they aren't associated with sex. But it has to be in combination with conversation. If she returns the kino, then you can escalate and touch lower on the back or throw your arm around her shoulder.

BF: Because she has a boyfriend, she probably wouldn't appreciate it if you blatantly try to pull her in front of everyone at school. Girls don't like being called sluts. Use discretion and try to isolate her away from school and away from her b/f. If you can do this and your still getting strong signals, then you'll know if your in or not.

Good luck bro.

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