I've discussed a couple bits of this here before, but basically there was a girl I went out with for about a week and tried to sleep with. That night I couldn't get an erection... the next day she revealed she'd already been seeing some other guy and liked him better. We can all guess the real reason she chose him, especially considering she asked me out first, and was the one who suggested going back to my place.

Anyway, we ended up out drinking on Friday with some friends... minus her boyfriend. It felt like we got a little couple-y to me, but I'm not sure. I do know that I was trying not to pay too much attention to her, and as the night went on I failed more and more miserably at that. At this point I started realizing that I do have some feelings for this girl, and I'm pretty confused about everything and was considering just telling her we can't be friends and I need to spend some time apart from her for a while.

But this isn't about that, either. Still just background info... sorry. If it helps any, this is the third revision and the first two were much longer.

Now, while I'm trying to figure all this out I get a text message from her on Sunday. Apparently our home team won a sporting event that neither of us care about, so she wanted to get together with me for a victory beer.

We did, we had a few beers and we talked. I didn't do any kind of kino stuff, though afterwards I thought I should have. While talking there were a few times she brought up her boyfriend, and a few times where she was trying to talk me into going to group outings I wasn't sure about yet.

So, I don't know... it seems odd that a couple weeks after dumping me and wanting to be just friends she'd call me up just to get a drink alone like that. Especially after we'd had so many drinks 2 nights earlier. I'm thinking mentioning the boyfriend could be a guilty conscience thing.

The thing is, I'm sure she liked me better before my problem or she wouldn't have been worried I wasn't going to ask her out.

So what do you guys think? And if I decide to pursue this girl some more, and I'm still unsure whether I want to or not, how do I act? I'm not good at kino escalation in the first place, but are there some bits of that I should be doing to generate more interest from her?

If you really want more details, the initial threads involving this chick are:
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i would say you probably would of been good if you did kino or anything else the last time you hung out

now it sounds like your stuck in the FZ

The odd thing is I hadn't done any kino when we first got together. Nor was she throwing anything that would be considered standard IoIs.

I'm wondering about doing some kino next time we're alone.

Also, would texting her and inviting her out next time I'm out be a good idea or bad idea? I've got a beer tasting on Thurs, and I know she can't make it because of a class... maybe a quick text asking if she wants to join us after class?

Anyone?

You may be in the FZ. But it sounds like shes choosing to hang out with you despite her new B/F. She wanted fuck you then, she probably wants to fuck you now. Just communicate what you want, but use discretion. Also, if things don't turn out right, don't let her put you in the FZ unless your cool with it.

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Ugh. Ok, before I whine about what I think I figured I'd get some kind of opinions. (Not that I've gotten a lot of response so far, but thanks to those of you who have!)

So there's a gathering Friday, and on facebook some people were jokingly trying to talk me into it by saying I could snuggle under blankets with the girls. I pragmatically pointed out that all the girls were coupled up, and I'd have to share for the guy too.

The girl I'm after posted that she had dibs on one girl, and I could snuggle with her new boyfriend instead. You know, the guy she just fucking dumped me for. Yeah, that wouldn't be fucking annoying. I mean, sure gay joking I can handle... pretty commonplace in the group especially since one of the girls is a lesbian. But with the guy she fucking dumped me for? Fucking fuck that.

So, if I were a PUA instead of an AFC what would I think about this? Aside from "find some other chick" that is. (really, because there are a couple other chicks I'm working on...) The thing is, if she's just fucking with me I might fuck with her right back. If she's just confused about her feelings for me, I'd try to get everything resolved for the both of us. I need to know what to do though...

The best thing for you to possibly do is ignore it. If she ends up dumping this guy (as it sounds like thats a real possiblity given your situation), then you want to be a go to for a booty call right? Play it off and either say something like your "down to cuddle with him as long as he doesnt try to cup my balls," or just don't respond. If you go to this party, try gaming someone else or bring a new girl. Otherwise, the awkwardness wont be worth your time, and you should find something better to do that night. Remember, lead, be alpha, and always having something else going on.

Good luck!

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My actual reply was "that's disturbing on more levels than I can possibly count." Definitely not going to this gathering, there's a much more interesting gathering involving Guinness girl's downtown.

I'm still trying to figure out what her game is here, though.

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OK, just talked to a mutual friend and apparently this girl sometimes just doesn't think her comments through. So maybe she just thought it would be funny...

If this is the case, then the ball is in your court.

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Which is why I need about a hundred of you guys to post suggestions between now and tomorrow night when I might be seeing her again.