Okay, so I need some advice on what I should do next about this girl I really like. She seems like long-term relationship material. I've known her for about a year and we actually didn't get along very well initially until we got to know each other. Now we're fantastic together. My status is, she's a taken girl in a long distance relationship. She seems to be in a failing relationship. Theyve been together for about 3 months, but the boy has pretty big flaws. He's insecure and needy, who's head over heels for her but she's only briefly fallen in love with him before she had to move away. she was sort of sick with him being so needy and so jealous about everything. I came along and we started hanging out a lot. She's really good at hiding her attraction until finally I have her confess that she's really attracted to me. This was via text. The thing is, she told me the night before she went back to her home town to visit family and also her boyfriend. She was initially going to break up with him by telling him their problems, etc. I told her prior to not put me in the picture, and decide on it without ever thinking about me. She did do that. But she also cares for him a lot and doesn't want to see him hurt. she's really bad at confrontation and hurting others. so when she told him their problems and how she didn't feel the same way, she hurt him but she sympathized and started falling for him again. She said she still wants to see if it could work and wants to give a month for them to reassess their situation, but they'll still be together. I think that about puts you guys up to date.

So now I'm here, wondering what the fuck to do. Okay, let me draw some lines. I don't want to make her into 'that girl' who cheats on her boyfriend for another guy, and she doesn't either. i also don't want to be 'that guy' anyway. So I can't seduce her straight up. I have morals. I know i probably could, but i don't want to. She's worth a lot to me. But I'm also a bit impatient. I dont want her potentially being with him a lot longer than it needs to take for her to break up with him. Because she even admits she can't imagine ever marrying him and such. Oh, yeah, we're college kids, if that makes a difference. She goes to college here with me and lives like 300 miles away from her hometown, same place as her boyfriend. They don't visit each other very often it seems.


So the real question is, how do I speed things up without making her feel like she's breaking up with him solely for me? Also, how should I DHV other than how fun it is to hang out with me? How do I show that I'm more than a great friendship, but also a great companion? we've connected on a lot of levels already and we're very comfortable around each other, and tell each other a lot of things. I mean, I'm also truly asking, how do I make her pretty attracted to me but at the same time make her current relationship fail without her feeling she did it to be with me? I guess I can't have both, huh?


Any feedback guys? I'd /really/ appreciate the help. I really like how this community works together and I'd love to start being a part of it. Thanks a lot! I hope this topic helps any lurkers to come.

/edited for conciseness.

tl;dr

make your posts more concise and two the point.

basically, her backstory with her shit LDR doesn't matter, game her how you'd game any chick.

to help get past the potentialyl high LMR use 870's No Sex Gambit

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hey thanks for the advice, but that's the thing, I don't know if I can just go that route of gaming her typically and dealing with LMR bullshit. I know it's sort of a bit off from the game here, but I'm not looking to get in bed with her yet. so I'm still interested in other methods to break up the relationship and 'seeming' neutral. i guess to DLV about her bf without being direct about it. I'm also sort of curious how often i should stay in touch.

boyfriend destroyers.

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