Well, the girl i lost my virginity to a while back has recently become single and after contacting her the idea of meeting up again has been brought up. When i first met her she was by far one of the most attractive girls i had seen (tall, blond russian) at least an HB8, but i didnt approach as back then my confidence was pretty low . however we ended up meeting through a mutual friend and we slept together within that week. she left London a few months later and that was her excuse for not starting a relationship. 2 years on and im coming to realise that the way she made me feel like i was unique and special was infact something that used to reel me in and feel like she could just fuck me (in her mind as a FB, in mine as a potential girlfriend).

so as i said i will be meeting up with her for a few days at her new place and (due to suggested sleeping arangements) will probably end up having sex. That is by no means a bad thing but is there anyway in which i can maintain some from of dignity and slieght grasp over the situation? instead of looking like a complete easy shag or watever.

i was thinking (as she has offered me her bed, which at the time i answered in a non comital way,) if i actually went and slept on the floor next to her bed, showing greater self control and how she doesnt have complete womanly powers over me...

this may lead into her iniciating the sex eventually and much later on...

i honestly dont know how to play this one

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Pascal.

A PUA is for life, not just for christmas

You're really overthinking the situation.

If you sleep on the floor next to her... Well... That would be weird and will definitely make so seem awkward.
She offered you her bed, so sleep in her bed. If you have sex then you have sex.

If you want to date her then its not about where you sleep, it's how you act before and after the sleeping. If you want to show her that she doesn't have power over you then you'll just need to take charge, tease her and be unreactive to her bullshit.

what do you mean when you say its about "how you act before and after" and also about being unresponsive...?

i know her already so would the idea of a neg styled comment be out of the question?

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Pascal.

A PUA is for life, not just for christmas

I was just making the point that whether you sleep in the bed or on a couch, or even if you leave and sleep somewhere else, the end result (ie getting her attracted and interested in dating you) depends on who you are and not where you sleep.

The rest is just basically referring to treating her like any other woman you're gaming. Don't take shit, tease her, neg, kino, dhv, pass her shit tests.

cheers

that is so true, its not where you sleep but how you play it before you get to the point of sleeping!

do you know where i could find some solid info on DHVing and mayb a small bit on shit tests as it (DHV especially) keeps cropping up...

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Pascal.

A PUA is for life, not just for christmas

Just do a search for those terms, there should be a lot of good posts.

Here's one on shit tests: identifying-a-shit-test-vt51272.html
There's also a shit test practice thread which I'd recommend you try find...

cheers...

the problem with DHVing is that many of the stories i have are just things from my life ie going on a charity trip to africa, visiting thiland, playing in a band etc..

they dont seem to have any moral or happyending-like appeal and therefore seem as if its just a story for the sake of it without actually reaching any set goal...

any suggestions?

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Pascal.

A PUA is for life, not just for christmas