Okay, the background, I did a completely AFC approach on a waitress in a bar a couple of months ago. I've been back several times and just acted natural, like I did before I approached her. I say hello to her when I get there, and if she's on my path out, I'll say goodbye when I'm leaving. Before I left the bar last time I was there, I used the bathroom. I come out of the bathroom, and she is at the waitress station all by herself. She imediately makes eye contact, smiles at me, winks, does the cheek noise thing. I just acted normally, held eye contact, already had a smile on my face, and said "catch you later"

"you're going home?"

"yeah"

"What?"

"I said yeah"

"I heard you, I meant what? why are you going home?"

"have a good night"

I then strolled out of the bar with my normal walk, and good posture. I did this because it seemed to me at the time like she was looking for a reaction.

Not a shit test, from what i can tell its an IOI - she was trying to flirt with you. Next time stay around and talk playfully with her. tease her say that she wants to leave with you but can't or something...

See what others on this forum say...

That was awesomly cocky! i love it!

It's definately an IOI, and not a shit test..

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Okay, so it was an IOI. I figured she either was just looking to get a reaction out of me or was shit testing me, because I spectacularily crashed and burned with her a few months before.

I agree, it was cocky, but I should have rewarded the IOI somehow, right? With body language or at least stopped to chat a few more seconds?

that was indeed cocky but i agree thats an IoI. Keep your composure as you are now since its starting to get her attention from the last time you tryed to game her.

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I love slightly cocky girls. Always great fun and make me laugh. And that sort of thing a few years back I would have loved but would have peobably gone chicken as a reaction...

Actually one question, if you kind of blew a kiss in her direction or stuck your tongue out, anyone reckon that would go down well? My instinct tells me 'Yes', but would be nice to get a confirmation from someone who knows what they're talking about.

I'm pretty sure if you do it with a sly smile on your face it'll go down well... I get girls that i've opened and im working on waving to me at uni and i scratch my nose with my middle finger and smile.. and they know it's a fun/flirty interaction .. even from a distance..

I think the interaction on a whole went down well man.. Think about it from her point of view.. You approached her the first time and it didn't go down so well .. and lately, you've just been saying hi to her right ..

And then when she tried to talk to you, you just ignored her like she was any other girl.. She's probably thinking .. what the hell? .. who is this guy? .. and on that all important subconcious level she is intriuged by what just happened and now it's got her WANTING to talk to you .. Her curiousity is.. well.. curious...

next time just approach her and have a chat (if she doesn't do so first).. neg her .. be C/F .. kino .. you know, the usual! and number close her..

I wouldn't wait TOO long before you close her eh .. definately in the next couple of interactions..

make sure you let us know how it goes

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You only get shit test if your are not 100% Congruent.

... and that was not a shit test. Also, dont get your hopes up on the fact that its an IOI. That is a SUPER PASSIVE IOI. You need to do a compliance test to see if she is truly attracted to you.

So, wink == WEAK IOI, fuck, I know this guy that winks ever 10 minutes because he has some problem with his eye. Dont rely on IOIs as a gauge of how good you are doing. You are REACTIVE to the chick if you do that.

Instead, If she is STAYING, she is playing. If they have not walked away from me, I PLOW PLOW PLOW, BT SPIKE BT SPIKE BT SPIKE, TEST TEST TEST, LEAD LEAD LEAD.

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