Last night I realized again why I was so drawn to the Game after reading less than chapter. After a pretty frustrating conversation I had with myself, I realized my game itself had been stagnating for about a year. It kind of went something like this:

I'm dancing, doing my thing, having fun.. HB comes up and makes an obvious attempt to open me on the floor.
"oh god, is she dancing on me? am i misreading this? what do i do.."
"did i just hesitate?"
"did she just see me hesitate?!"
"BAIL, BAIL, BAIL."

I obviously have a few, umm.. holes in my whole perspective on girls. Where is a good place to start building inner-game? I don't see any opener being of any use if I'm not confident using it. I'd like to be able to do a little self-improvement.

Suggestions?

Carlos Xuma is pretty good for inner game, and outer game.
Subscribe to his email list thing - he often sends out videos or audio clips on inner game, and those have helped me a shitload.

Read Psycho Cybernetics by Dr Maxwell Maltz. Changed my life for good.

Once you've changed your attitude/mindset you will find practicing alot easier. Practicing alone will breed success, which will in turn breed confidence, and will in turn breed more success. Once you have momentum it will only get easier my friend. Getting off the ground is the trickiest as that's where one needs to make the DECISION to change/transform. Once you have made that decision to change, you;re half way there. Its like you instantly switch modes in your life and become a new person, from there its just continuous development until the day you die. Never stop improving yourself, your relationships, your health and your finance.

One thing to keep in mind...no matter what you do you will not get over aproach anxiety if you do not FORCE yourself to approach girls. This kind of thing needs to be physically practiced, it cannot be learnt by reading. You need to experience it to see for yourself that there really is no reason to fear the approach. The fear you currently have is simply one big illusion which is fed by your current belief system....great thing is, you can change your belief system.