few things i want to say.

last weekend talked to this hb7 and we just clicked couldint follow with #close, went back today to try again needed some jeans anyway, and she did have good taste as im wearing the shirts she picked out now but she wasnt there so i felt a pang of self hatred at not goin for it last time and moved on.


next shop

me:wow this is a wierd shop it feels like u try and keep people in on purpose.
hb: cant remember somin along the lines off smile hahha yea blah blah
me: where do you keep your jeans?
hb:there somehere points
me:help me pick i need some advice
helps me pick went tried them on didint like them
me: theyr awful didint like them!
hb: im sorry blah blah
me: recomend some good jean shops
she: place place place place whatever place
me: some like, too girly, u gotta do better than that sounds good sounds good.
me:as i turn to go hey listen whats ure number i need some fashion advice we can go for a coffee and u can help me pick some jeans.
her; aww im so sorry i have a boyfriend dont think it would be fair

everything said lean back lots of ec, smile. and relaxed manner from my side.

first my apporch and genneral game it was bollocks but its getting over the fear of closing today, that was the most important thing for me but learing along the way is the way forward rite !


ok this is where i need help what i said was rly stupid as had to improvise fast had made my first attempt at #number close fuk me if im giving up straight away but all i could come up is this. and what i wanted to say was: i dont necesseryly want to fuk u i dont even know u yet, i would have been happy with just hanging out only a coffeee coz i do need more female friends.

me:cmon its only a coffee dosent he trust you enough ?

vry crapp all i could mutter as a response and that is so wrong on so many levels dont even want to talk about it hehe.

my question is this how to u transition from number close if she says she has a bf im not interested straight away even if its just a shit test i dont like it and if she rly has a bf i dont want to take another mans girl anyway, agains my rules. is there a way to establish a fine "lets just be friends" kinda of vibe on the spot or summin.. without seeming desperate or trying to hard to get in her pants cos rly i wasnt, not after the bf line anyway.

this dude was watching us and he had a "wtf ur wierdo" expression on his face!
didint have the head on me after getting burned down to ask him what his problem was as that would seem like me just being bitter after getting shot down. fuk me if im getting dragged down to that level.
normally dont phase me but since it was my first attempt at #close put me off making more attempts today ;/
im pretty sure she enjoyed the chat!!



dom

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Hi Domalo,

don't sweat it. Its easy to think a store girl is into you, cause its her job to be proactively interested and help people with their appearence.

If you go for the # close and she says she has a boyfriend this is an IOD and not a shittest. When it is a shittest (you have to be able to feel that out) just keep it cocky funny and keep gaming... and perhaps you might get a number after all.

Just don't worry about this one too much. Game on!

grtz

Bucc.

Can't figure out whether or not this is a shit test: "I don't give out my number to people I don't know"

I think it could be if she was being flirty, however I suppose if she's not showing IOI's then its pretty obvious she isn't.

But I'm glad you tried for a number at last.

if she says...

"I don't give out my number to people I don't know"

(assuming you dont know her name)

You - Fancy that, I dont normally take normally accept numbers from people I dont know either...anyway whats your name?

Her - [Smiles] .Stacey...

You - Good to meet you Stacey, I'm xxxxx.

You - Quick, 2 random questions for shits and giggles, what hair shampoo do you use?

Her - err ...[name of shampoo]

You - ok, aaand what size shoe are you?

Her - 5

You - Cool, now I know a few things about you that not even some of your closest friends would know...ok fiiine I now feel comfortable enough to accept your number [smile]

...complete re-frame, but in a humorous/clever way. She will see wat youre doing and she will find it fun. The 2 questions also stall things a bit giving you a chance to display your personality instead of just freezing out afetr her denying you her number. You can even neg her on the shampoo she uses or her shoe size.

Well in my case I think I just responded "C'mon, I'll only text you a million times a day!"

Cheers for the answer. I'll try your method too if this happens again.

that could work too...or 'dont worry i'll only call you 11 times a day and breath reeeally heavily into the phone.'

its short and sweet and will get a laugh, but its not really spending enough time with her to make her WANT to give you her number and pitch up for a date. I prefer reaching hook point before number closing, less flakes this way and is more solid game. its easy to number close in 2 minutes, just run around the mall asking strangers for numbers and out of 30 approaches you'll get at least 10. Most will flake though.

30 approaches is alot if work for 10 low quality numbers. Invest a bit more time, get better quality numbers. Plus spending more time with her will give YOU the chance to see if she is the kind of girl you want to go out with in the first place. thats what i like to do anyway

Well I had chatted to her briefly but in that case I remember there wasn't a rapport going. Luckily she didn't look as good in front as she did from behind.

I'll remember your advice anyway next time I'm gaming.

When I go for a # close and a girl gives me the "I have a boyfriend", I come back with "awe, really.....He's not gonna come out/ follow us around when we go out, is he?" or "Wow...He sounds fantastic! lol." or "You may not want to tell him that you gave some hot guy your number then." Anything to lighten the situation.

noted thx

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