Hey Ya'll,
So recently I haven't been able to get an erection. At first I thought it was just whiskey dick, and then I just thought it was the girl I was hooking up with, but after last night where I went out to a club and was dancing with a HB9, SOBER, I still had nothing. Like my mind knew she was hot but I couldn't manage shit. This is obviously relatively disappointing :p. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME!!! Should I start buying fuckin viagra; I'm 20 years old! Any help would be great!! Thanks!!

-BB

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Blue Blazer

Stop jerking off.

You could be gay :p

Is this recent? As in were you able to have sex before just fine? A big part of the problem is worrying about it... so the first time it happened for whatever reason. But the subsequent times you start to worry, which actually makes it more difficult to get it up again.

I have trouble with this too, and I've found that pills (viagara, levitra, etc...) don't really help because the problem is in my head. When I can get myself to just relax I do ok though. You may even notice that when you know you're not going to get laid you get hard... like at a strip club during a lapdance I never have a problem. In bed with a girl though... it's scary. :9

Also keep telling yourself you'll be fine. If you've been fine with sex before, tell yourself that you've been ok in the past and you will be again. Absolutely avoid any negative comments to yourself. If you happen to think something like "There must be something wrong with me" then catch yourself, and tell yourself something like "but I'm sure it's just temporary and I know I can have great hardons."

The basic idea is to keep yourself from mentally setting yourself up for failure, and to keep telling yourself you can succeed.

Also, it's tough to do but you may want to consult with a doctor to rule out anything medical being wrong. He'll probably just do a blood test to rule out testosterone issues but it's worth ruling out.

Also take a look at other stress in your life. Stress in general can affect you. Also how comfortable are you with the girls you're trying to fuck? It can help to be comfortable with a person. Bringing a new girl back home can be kinda stressful itself if you're already concerned about your performance.

Hope that helps!

Also are you able to get it up when your alone. Because then you know its just anxiety. What worked for me abit was really focusing on the feeling in my dick and relaxing. as soon as some stupid voice came in my head, i blocked it tried to relax andjust focused on the feeling of my dick. when your with her, focus on whatever turns you on about her the most. for me its tits and ass, so when i cant get it up i keep thinking of her tits in my face or ass in my face or her rubbing herself, whatever gets you off.