So, this is a slight situation of one-itis, in the sense that this girl is very interesting and cool, one of the few girls I've met that seems like she'd be worthwhile long term.

Tiny Bit of Background:

About a year ago I read the Game and Venusian Artist's Handbook and used it to glorious results: I met a girl the next day and gamed the shit out of her (no routines, just the knowledge of basic concepts) sleeping with her after two days of hanging out. We dated for about two months, but she ended up being nucking futs, so I resolved not to sleep with a girl immediately next time.

Then I took a little break from dating for personal reasons.


Here's the situation:

I met this girl online, simply cause I knew no one in this new city I moved to and had no real transportation. We hit it off when we first met and she was far and away one of the most attractive women I've ever laid eyes on.

So we hung out several times in rapid succession but I made no overt romantic moves on her. Kino is one of my sticking points so I didn't do any more than goodbye hugs.

After a while she started dropping major hints about how she likes guys that just make moves out of the blue, etc.

Originally she stated that she didn't want a relationship with anyone no matter what.

So one night we were hanging out and she starts talking about how she has changed her mind and really would like a boyfriend. We start watching a movie and I begin kino and end up making out with her a little. Though the mood was there, it was late and I didn't escalate it to sex.

Later that week we hung out twice more and it was fucking awkward. For some reason she was acting very cold and distant, certainly not making any effort to be close to me. I chose to dip out early on both occasions because I couldn't think of anything to fix the situation and I figured cut it short rather than prolong the awkwardness.

So on the advice of a female friend I pulled a classic AFC maneuver. Basically she advised me to ask the girl on a legitimate date and then talk to her about the situation between us. So I asked the girl on an actual date:

Me: So do you want to go on like an actual date later this week?
Her: I don't think that's a good idea, I'm not into you like that.
Me: (Feelings now hurt, another AFC move): Fair enough. Can I ask what changed your mind?
Her: Nothing, I wasn't ever interested in you like that.
Me: Ok. Friends then?

I continued the conversation by making a comment about a show we both had been watching, then cut it off.

Well my friends could tell I was into this chick and I was upset for about a week after this so they advised me not to contact her anymore cause I was just setting myself up for heartbreak. Plus I took what she said at face-value, so I figured there was nothing to be gained from continued attempts to date her.

About 2 weeks after that, she called me to ask if I wanted to go biking with her. I had just sprained my ankle so I told her that and said no thanks.

No contact for about another month.

So just a few nights ago, I was re-reading the Game and Mystery Method and I got the feeling that the situation with this girl was not as clear-cut as I originally felt. I kinda got the feeling that her denying me was just A) A shit-test, B) playing hard to get, or C) a bad reaction to poor game.

So I was kinda drunk and I sent her a message, picking up the conversation about that TV show where we'd left it off, mocking her a bit for being wrong in her predictions about what was going to happen. She responded, getting defensive (despite the fact that she was mostly right) and said she would've talked to me about it sooner but I fell off the planet.

I didn't respond to this, but made brief small talk, talking about the cool weekend I'd just had.

She cut off the conversation not much longer, saying she was going to bed. I didn't respond to that.


So, that's the long version of what happened. Actually its been trimmed down, but I don't want to gush too much. Now I'm kinda wondering what kind of tactics are appropriate in this position, whether you all think there's any chance left, etc.

Thanks for any help you can provide.

-Damieus

Dude stop read mystery or style material. Right now!

This method teaches you how to get laid, easily. You need to work in another level of your game: Your life.

When you're a sociable, funny and interesting guy, women will often come into you. Otherwise youre just a weirdo guy faking your image, trying to be something youre not.

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I didn't respond to this, but made brief small talk, talking about the cool weekend I'd just had.

She cut off the conversation not much longer, saying she was going to bed.

Of course she cut of the conversation, it wasn't about HER. She sounds like a spoiled little brat that gets her panties twisted if things don't go her way, or if she isn't the focus of attention. Personally, I cut these girls loose. Their attitude is for sh*t and they will only cause you headaches. The p*ssy ain't worth the hassle. Excuse the language...

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Sinful have standards with women. He's extremely right, we dont need to bother with girls that dont worth nothing. Call it how anyway: Alpha male attitude, prizability, etc. Thats the right way of being.

Fu$$

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I'm in a similar situation.

Pulled a girl, attraction was there. She was dropping all hints like it could go something. Basically, along the line I realised I supplicated, demonstrated too much interest in her before she did me and it fell flat on it's face.

I got LJBF'd.

A month later she calls me. So she wants to hang out. I know why she wants to hang out. Because, like sinful said she's the type of girl who wants to be the focus of attention.

The little AFC voice in my head is saying, ' yes do it, you can turn in around.'

Drop it. Don't waste your time. I know I'm certainly not going to. Delete her message and her number.

Also Don't read too much into your little pep talk with her. Trust me it'll fuck you up. UNDERSTAND THAT THERE WAS ATTRACTION with her to begin with. Otherwise she wouldn't have kissed you. You just fucked up somewhere that's all.

Oh and never take advice of female friends. They tell you to be up front and honest and that girls like a sensitive romantic guy who is funny. Then they end up dating a jerk ha ha. I had one female friend tell me, 'Girls are like fine china, treat them as such.' I was laughing in my head.

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