Ok so for background information: I am a college student, I get laid my fair share, but mostly in the context of drunk hookups. I have never really had nor pursued any kind of real relationship. i am posting here because i am a guy who approaches things from a strategic standpoint and having read the game i feel like this is the place where people will help me do that when it comes to a girl situation.

The girl at hand was an acquaintance that I had been on friendly terms with for maybe a year before a few months ago we randomly hooked up after a party. I didn't think much of it, it had happened before. Like many girls, the next week she texted me for repeat business. Was a good option compared to my other ones at the time, so we hooked up again. This continued for the next few weeks--she was all over me, begging me to come over and bang her, etc. A few times I was busy or just didn't feel like it and playfully shot her down and this made her want me even more. All good...

However soon she started dropping hints like we should hang out more or hang out sober and just texting me randomly just to talk and stuff. It was pretty clear that she wanted me to gf her or whatever but we just kinda continued hooking up a few times a week but nothing more. She is a cool girl and i actually didn't mind talking to her and stuff...but i just didn't feel like i wanted (or even knew how if i did want) to escalate the relationship.

so this continued the last few months of the school year. graduation came around (she was a senior but i was just finishing my soph yr). after that she moved like 45 mins away for her job and i stayed at the same place as our school for the summer. the first few weeks were more of the same in terms of her texting me several nights a week asking me to come over but i was always either not feeeling like making the drive or drunk so i couldnt or something. then one night there was an actual party at her place and i went to it and we ended up hooking up.

after that, though, she randomly got colder on me. she still messaged me sometimes but wasnt like begging me to drive a half hour to nail her and such anymore. then one weekend she was hanging out back in our town. she was over at my place for a while because we were having a barbecue. we were kind of hooking up in my room but then our ride came and we had to stop and leave. later that night, she was presented with the opportunity to go to this other party like a half hour away of some dude who wanted to get with her and she goes to it. as she was leaving i was thinking "no way shes coming back"...but at this exact moment she texts me "i'm not ditching you i still want to hang out with you tonight". needless to say, she didn't come back. this is where i fuck up: the next day, by calling her out on it. she then just defends herself saying how we've hooked up for months and never hung out so she doesn't owe me anything etc. etc. bitch move by me, certainly. even after that, though, she still continued to msg me just to talk and stuff as we had kind of become closer friends through hooking up if that makes sense. i didn't initiate too much contact but in the following month a few times i texted her when i was drunk and nothing came of it...sometimes she wouldn't respond until the next day saying she missed it, sometimes just that she didn't want to drive down one time when she was sick (she really was)...etc. now feel free to call me a sucker...but most of the times i do have reason to believe that her excuses were legit...but still, she wasn't trying to make the effort to hang out with me in the first place which she used to be the one who did so even if the excuses are legit which i believe they are (would require a long explanation) so something has changed either way.

the point is this: other than these drunk texts to try and hook up and being a bitch by calling her out on ditching me, i've played it fine i think. but i've also realized that this girl is actually really cool...and while i still don't know if i want to get into a relationship as she seemingly wanted at first...i'd at least want things to be back to where they were (her wanting me haha) and maybe try to actually spend time wiht her and see where it goes.

i've hooked up with a few other girls and its been fine, but it's also reminded me how retarded they were and how much cooler this girl is when i just want to kick these other chicks out as soon as they blow me or whatever. so i guess this is kind of a case of 1-itis but a) i've tried hooking up with other chicks as recommended. and b) i've already hooked up with the 1 plenty so it's not a situation of being obsessed with a girl i've never had.

basically, she still shows enough interest in me and makes ambiguous references to still wanting to hook up with me that if i play it right i can get something out of this situation. but i also don't think there's alot of room for error, which is why i'm posting here. thanks in advance