I've settled down for awhile with just one girl, I feel like such an afc, and I feel like I'm becoming boring and everything has become routine.

I've mastered how to get a girl off the first time, 2nd time, 3rd time, now I feel like I have no variation.

I start by kissing her neck, following the large vein on her neck down towards her heart, one hand on her ass, one either on her neck, the back of her head, stroking her hair. then kiss her jawline up to her ear, nibble on her ear, back to her lips down to her neck then bite her shoulder/neck, kiss her all the way down her stomach remove the panties and insert penis.

She only wants to do it missionary, I have gotten to the point where I really don't care if she gets off, I just get off kiss her on the forehead and go to sleep.

So help me switch things up

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Get thee to a sex store, sir. And bring your girl with you.

I suppose there are some questions that need asking before I get into the whys of the above. Why does she insist on missionary? Why are you not giving and/or getting oral sex? Your technique in foreplay is ridiculous; where did you learn it?

With those out of the way, I'd like to suggest that you and the girlfriend educate yourselves about how sex can be fun. There are a lot of podcasts, columns, books and articles that talk about sex and how it can be made more fun and dynamic. Even if she is uninterested in learning, the more you know, the more you will bring to your next relationship in regards to sexual expertise. Sex shops sell books. Some of those books are very good. Others are not so good. Ask someone who knows.

I would suggest you stay away from stores like "Adult Source" or "Love Boutique." Chains like those are pretty skeazy sometimes, and they're not as girl-friendly as they should be (considering they sell an insane number of dildos). Find a nice, tastefully appointed sex store in your town, or see if there's a passion party you can get in on being held by a friend-of-a-friend. Learn as much as you can about sex and making it amazing.

As a caveat, communication is going to be really important for you, here. You'll need to discuss the new things you want to try, but more importantly, you'll want to discuss why you want to try new things. For a girl who is only interested in lying on her back while she's getting fucked, new things may seem like a strange idea; if you can't get her to try the new, your sexual relationship is going to suffer. If you're ok with that, I wish you a happy life. If you're not, you may need to bring your girl back to the lot and find a model with the following things:

- Experimentation
- Oral
- Experience

On most models, these things come standard, so they should be easy to find. ^_^

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Yes please explain some of your topics. IS there a reason why she only likes missionary? Is it the only one she knows? Is she shy? Is she lazy? IS she just inexprienced? Im sure there are lots of suggestions but you might want to give us an idea of what you think the problem is so we might be able to give you some advice that will work with the situation. Also remember most women want the guy to take charge.
The girl im seeing right now im sure would just lay there and not move or make a sound if i didnt take charge. But if shes laying in the missionary position sometimes ill kneel between her legs and pick up her hips and bring her to me. Even put my arms under her and pick her up. The 1st time i did that to her it blew her away. She even told me that she was bragging to her friends how good it felt to feel weightless while having sex.
Remember your the dominate one and you should be directing her how you want to have sex. To an extent of course. It kinda worries me when you say you are to the point u just finish and kiss her and fall asleep. If you dont get more into it i dont see how you expect her to.
Also talk to each other. I dont think people talk to each other enough about sex. I know it can be awkward sometimes but thats the only way your going to find out what she likes and its the only way she will know what you like. Ask her what her fantasy is or tell her yours and play it out. Buy her outfits to wear that are sexy.
I slept with a girl once who actually had a fetish for being raped. Not real rape but rough grab her, half choke her, do what you want to her kind of rape. Almost like roleplay rape or even bondage. The girl earlier that i mentioned i picked up had a fetish that she wanted a guy to be able to toss her around and do anything to her. So when i picked her up or if i take control i fulfill her fantasy and it makes it that much better for her. She even went as far as loosing weight so i could toss her around more. And i worked out so it would be easier on me.
I understand the frustration your going thru. Ever had sex with a virgin? Gatta show them how to do everything.
I agree with monkey, your discription of foreplay sounds boring or mechanical. Monkey makes some good points. What about Oral?

Skankin

You need to mix shit up... Fuck the bedroom thats for love making not fucking.

You need to use the back of the couch (pick her up make her warp her legs around you, bend her over the kitchen counter while making dinner together, sneak into her condo's pool after hours and side of the pool, do it on the hood of you car at the end of a airport run way ect... be imaginative be bold! take charge she will love you for it.

tell her you know this new thing and everybody is doing it.

I agree with this; the easiest and simplest thing you can do right now even if you don't have a lot of experience is just change the location.

Just to give you an idea, I was having dinner with a group of guy friends the other night and we played a drinking game where we went around the table and everyone had to come up with a different place they had sex. The six of us went around the table like 5-10 times, and quit mostly out of drunkeness lol.

Edit thought of some more stuff:

You don't even sound that excited to be having sex with her yourself, and she's probably taking that cue from you because that's how girls are, they take cues from the man. So I'd suggest taking a week off from sex of any kind, even taking matters into your own hands if you know what I mean, and build up some serious sexual energy so you'll be a raging sexual animal next time you get together with her.

For specific sexual tips; talk to her more before and during sex, tell her what you want her to do (don't ask! Tell!) and how to turn you on and make you more excited, and pay very close attention to any clues she's giving you about what she wants you to do. Most girls won't come right out and tell you what they want but they always leave enough clues for a sexually experienced and sensitive man to follow, and they always hope that you're one of the guys that can. Of course that does require that you actually be sexually experienced and sensitive =p. But the point is that you make this more of a communicative, cooperative exercise. If you aren't communicating, on a verbal or even non-verbal level, then really you're both just masturbating in the presence of another individual. Masturbating is great and all but a two-way sexual experience is what you're really after here!

In general, with regards to your technique, I think you should go down on her, and expect her to reciprocate. Oral is great foreplay and I almost never have sex without it. During actual penetration, try grabbing a fistful her hair at the base of neck and gently tugging just a little bit. You can do that from any position during coitus and it's intensely sexually exciting and erotic to the girl. While you're doing that whisper some dirty talk into her ear and nibble it at the same time and watch her go wild. As you feel yourself getting close to climax, withdraw and change position. This not only buys you more time, but also creates a kind of sexual tension that's similar to push/pull theory; it will in fact make her come more quickly even as it allows you to last longer overall.

If you have built up your sexual energy for a week or however long as I suggested, after you come don't let that slow you down or end the moment, no matter how fast you do actually come, which will probably be pretty damn fast if you've been building yourself up for a week! Do not look apologetic or embarassed or you will seriously beta yourself and kill all the sexual energy in the room big time. If she comments on it, give her a look like she's crazy to think you're even close to finished with her, and say 'I'm just getting warmed up sweetheart, now lie back and relax' and go right back to giving her oral. Make her come with your oral and you'll have regained control of the situation and by then should be ready for round 2, which should probably last a lot longer. Just as she's coming down from the orgasm, you can insert again which in my experience always drives girls crazy. Now since you just came like 5 minutes ago, this second round you should be able to last much much longer. Depending on how hot and how good she is, I can make this second time go for hours. The good news is that even if she's a 10 and fantastic and makes you come again quickly, no problem! If she's that good, you should have no problem getting it up a third time and starting over again. My record is 4 orgasms over a 3 hour period, and 5 or 6 for her. Damn she was hot =p. Also one last thing; during sex there's nothing stopping you from moving around to different places around the house. Last time I had really good sex I started out by taking pictures of her wearing sexy clothes I bought for her (LTR) in the living room, and fucking on the couch. During my second penetration (after my first orgasm) I picked her up and carried her into the shower, we had our second orgasm in the shower, then cleaned each other off. Then I carried her into the bedroom and we had long, romantic sex on the bed for the third orgasm. Total time was over 2 hours.

So to recap:
1) preparation is key--build up some sexual energy first for about a week or so. If you don't do this you will probably not have the energy or motivation to perform at your best and just do what you already do which is give her a peck on the forehead and go straight to sleep.
2) foreplay--needs to include a lot of communication so it's not just two people masturbating, and ideally you should make her come or close to it before you even penetrate the first time.
3) during sex--be a man, take charge, change positions often
4) after you come, don't kill the moment! Don't be embarassed or apologetic under any circumstances! Keep it going, give her oral, make her come again, and then start over in a new position. Move around to different locations.

there are literally THOUSANDS of versions of the ancient Kama Sutra out there. Read up on some of them, they'll give you plenty of new positions. HOWEVER, I suggest possibly try and find a true version, that way you can fluff about why it is you're kissing her just below the arm pit, why she should have your penis in her mouth, and why it is she needs to start stretching every day to pretzel her into the positions you please.

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