Okay well here is a long story short, we met in september (in school) and we got really close and she considers me her "bestfriend" but last night we were joking around like we usually do pretending to say things like "i love you baby" and stuff like that for fun right. But later that night she texted me asking me if what I said was true (I said a whole bunch of stuff some true somg not) and I told her id get back to her tomorrow. So anyways today she asked me about my "feelings" for her and I told her this exactly, "well, At first we talked alot and got pretty close but in a way I kinda started to like you which is hard because I tried not to get attatched to you which obviously failed cuz like I said I dont want things to get awkward at all and I dont wanna lose you as a friend if that makes any sense? so ya to answer your question I like you but I am happy being a good friend with you at the same time"

her response to that was "aww thats cute" and she told me "dont worry things wont get awkward " and stuff and we continued talking casually. So if I could get some opinions from people with experience in this what do you think just happened and will happen? is that a normal response or what? I am so confused :S what do you think I should do in my situation?

your at a very sticky point cause she's leaning on if she wants to be with you or keep it at a friendship level. her asking how your feeling about her is a ioi, since she's curious of the way you feel. i think you made the mistake of how you said it to her, you shoulda said something like "yea I do like you, but lately the way you been acting has been giving me second thoughts" than give her a smile. she'd probably reply "well whats been giving you second thoughts" (girls are always curious), reply back with "well your a sweet girl and everything, but if we ever got together i wouldn't think it'd work out, your too ____ and i'm too ___" with a very cocky ass smile. this is for future advice, because since it's already been said, your gonna have to make a recovery. next time you see her you can say, "wow, I'm glad I got that out of my crest, lately i've been realizing that even if we did hook up it wouldn't even work out, your too ____ for me"... your going to have to push and pull like crazy now, push once and pull twice.

For future reference, it's generally not a good idea to have these heart-spilling conversations because verbalizing attraction is logical and you are supposed to be communicating emotionally.

That said, you did it and it seems to have worked out for you. The statement "don't worry it won't get awkward " implies she is down for advancing your relationship to the next level and should be the only green light you need. It's basically girl code for "Man up and go for it already!" so that's my advice

Now you just need to figure out what you want with this girl.

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quick update, okay today we went to the mall today and in total we spent 8 HOURS together chillin and buying stuff at the mall. There was physical teasing on both sides and we laughed a lot and had tons of fun naturally things flowed at the first 10 minutes it was kinda awkward since this is the first time we hung out alone but after it all came naturally and we were joking around as usual. Somehow she started talking about HarryPotter the new movie coming out and she was supposed to go with her "boyfriend" apparently but she told me he didn't treat her like a girlfriend etc..etc.. so they broke up and before she said she was going to go with him, BUT she now asked me to go with her instead just us two so I am guessing this is a good sign? or is it not? PS I didn't say one of those lines people usually say like "hey I had fun we should go out again sometime" Any recommendations on what I should tell her when I call or text her? thanks. Oh yea one more thing, what are your opinions on where this is headed. Just staying really close friends or slowly becoming more?

lines aren't necessary anymore, CF and Kino, u just gotta sexually escalate. She just broke up with her boyfriend, now use that too your advantage. If you want, a good line would be "Just cause you broke up with your boyfriend and you know I'm into you, doesn't mean i'm going to let you take advantage of me". It's a great sign she asked you to go!! you should kno better than that. Also she asked you to go to the movies, so thats her job to call for the date. Remember you gotta push and pull. When she calls, be difficult. i.e "That time is bad for me, lets go at ___"

Okay thanks for the advice, and ya ill remember to push and pull lol.

Some good advice posted here, remember what 870 said. It is about what you want to do, she asked to go to a movie but you don't have to accept that date. You could create your own date and make it something more interesting hopefully. Unless you are a fan of Harry Potter then it works for both of you.

Like others said, it sounds like she has given you some indications of allowment to advance. I would wait a little while to see if she seeks attention from you (sends a text message or w/e).

I saw the post where you said you spent 8 HOURS at the mall. Personally I believe that is to much time to spend with her. Your interactions should be as fun and entertaining as possible, now if those 8 hours were nothing but fun for the BOTH of you then it isn't all that bad. Just make sure you can communicate you have other things going on.

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You are in a really good position! It sounds like she really likes you.

Just from reading what you have written, it sounds like she wouldnt object to kissing you. Go for it! Yeah, escalate.

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Okay another quick update, most weirdest thing just happened. I am so confused because NOW apparently she got back with her ex but she still wants me to go to the movies with her and stuff and yea she texted me twice first one last night and 1 early this morning so I guess that's good. but ya is she just giving mixed signals or something? what would you guys do in this situation?

Well, here it is . . .

Your uncle promises you a steak but he forgets to call Morton's for a Saturday night reservation. So you know you're in for a damn fine steak but you're just sitting out there, sitting out there, and sitting out there. Sure, you're joking around and having a swell time but imagine waiting outside for a table for 8 HOURS?

Yeah, you'd make a run for that hot dog stand wouldn't you?

But . . . you might be coy and tell the hostess, "Oh My God, we're so hungry . . . we're gonna run for that hot dog stand!" (And slowly pretend as if you're walking away)

Get it?

I think so, are you saying I am basically waiting on something that has a zero to slim chance happening unless I make something happen? and not to get hopes high? lol.

Who cares what she means.

-Look it could mean she IS getting back with her ex and wants you has her comfort blanket.

-It could mean she's trying to bait you into making a move.

Either way, it DOESN'T MATTER. You decide what YOU want out of this and then make your move.

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Or a Beta male who has been with his girlfriend for 6 months and she has finally allowed him to have sex with her after he buys her a nice £500 knecklace and he is counting down the days until his big night and he finds out she is on her period.

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No! Are you kidding me?!?!

She's been waiting for that steak for ever! You're the steak! And you just keep walking around and telling her how great this steak is going to taste while she's waiting to be seated.

She's either already jumped for the hot dog stand(Her boyfriend) or she's PRETENDING that she's going to the hot dog stand in an attempt to get seated quickly.

Dude, you're going to lose business soon! Get off your ass and stick your tongue down her throat already! Holy shit man!

Honey you're on the verge of the LJBF's zone.

So suck in your balls, tuck your pecker in between your legs. Push out your man tits and strut like a woman. Ha.

Be a man. Fuck everything else.

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