First, Thanks to all that will take time to read and reply to this...

Second, Thanks to all that won't just tell me to GFTOW... I'm just not there... Yet...

I got two questions... One's probably simple... The second... Maybe not so much...

1. Can you set your own standards on HBs? I got a particular fondness for bigger women... Basically, they can be 200+ pounds as long as they're well proportioned. so a 10 to me might be a 3 or 2 to another... Will the same rules apply for someone I think is a 10? (For those who need an example, think about the black comedian, Mo'nique)

2. With all that being said, I got a problem... There's a chick I'd love to fuck at work. Under normal circumstances, she would not be an issue, but she likes to do friendly flirting. She's caught me eyeing her on several occasions. She's told me that she likes to mess with me.. She's played funny jokes on me before.... Once, she even came at me with a random accusation out of the blue... She said, "Don't ever do that again... Don't worry about what it is.. I'm onto you, and you should just stop!!!" just to come back minutes later with "I was just joking".

Now I played my position and was like "WTF are you talking about..." But an added twist is that we both know that the other has a girlfriend/boyfriend at home. I have never actually physically told her that I like her, but I do and I'm trying to figure out what her angle is...

Does anyone think that she secretly wants to fuck me too, or is it just the simple fact that my infatuation with her maybe just that little self esteem boost for her to get her through the day?

1. well with certain aspects you pretty much treat her to the standards. but u cant go to extremes. like a girl that looks like mo'nique may have self-esteem problems. not all of them do, but quite a few probably do. so teasing her about certain things is a no-go. u can tease and neg a girl about her outfit if she acts like shes super hot and owns the place, but if she is a girl who doesnt feel comfortable in what shes wearing but wears it cuz her friends are, then u gotta be light on teasing and negging. am i being clear here? i kinda mumble and jumble my words..

otherwise if you can tell shes not ms. california, HB10 status. and is already low esteem. then u easily just compliment her, and make her feel good. and still be mr high status. and she will be good with you.

2. the girl at your work seems like she likes you. if shes giving you all that attention then obviously she likes to be around you. try to hang out with her outside of work. just go out for drinks and talk. or just do something casual. get her in the "mood" so she knows whats up. hint really well that you dont wanna be just friends. try to kiss close sumwhere in the night. and success follows.

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Thanx for all the help! That's what I figured, but I guess I needed another person's opinion... Good lookin out