Well, to be atractive i know that i cant care about others think and at some point im doing great in this..but im having trouble with some points

Lets take a female friend ,for example, (not a target) that says she doesnt like long hair on guys, and you have long hair...although i do not really care about her it still makes me feel a bit down. I laugh about it and sometimes have a nice awnser but deep inside it is not so nice

What is the best thing to say in this kind of situations (something only a truly convident person, who do not care AT ALL and takes it by fun would say)

and more importantly, how can i fix it that deep inside ill not care?


Thanks guys

This one's easy, as it is basic psychology. Whenever any one says anything derogatory about you, instantly come back at them. This can be just simple "Actually it looks kinda cool." Not a defensive "Well, I think it looks kinda cool", make it a statement of fact.

If it was me I'd probably make it more elaborate "You know I think your in the minority there-many women like to fantasize about strong, confident men with long hair. There's a reason why Samson lost his power when his hair was cut-long hair speaks to something deep in female sexuality". In this case I'm reminding myself that this chick is just one of many opinions in a big world.

You'll find if you say something, for some reason, you actually believe it in a way you wouldn't if you just try and rationalize an insult in your mind.

she is a person with opinions people will like things about you and dislike others, in the same way you like and dislike elements of them. Accept this and move on.

Also getting told a line to say will not help, you need to accept people are fundamentally different and it is the imperfections and differences that make interactions fun.

Ask her why she doesn't like long hair, dig deeper and deeper and you will get to the real statement she is trying to make.

Thanks for awnsers guys !

But Jaybot if i ask her that, that will make me look afected because i wanna know why she doenst like something about me (im qualifying to her), isnt that what not to do? Also just getting over the fact that its an opinion seems a bit AFC and did not gave me good results in the past

Trueflame, that seems nice and makes perfect sense, thanks .