| Hello forum, I will try to make this as short and to the point as possible. I am in my early 20's and have been involved in a long-term relationship with my current girlfriend since high school. Both of us had very little sexual experience prior to this. After being together for four years, we started being curious about threesomes and she wanted to experiment with a girl. Since we had so little sexual experience before that, we wanted to try new things, but didn't want to end our relationship.
One night we went out with her friend whom we've known on and off for several years, had a little too much to drink and ended up having a threesome. We thought this would just be a threesome, but we both really like this girl and she liked us, so this escalated into a committed 3-way relationship. We have been in this polyamorous relationship for about a year now and lately it hasn't been working out very well.
She has been distant lately and it seems like she never wants to hang out with us. We are the ones usually calling her and sometimes she doesn't even call back. She says she's always tired, depressed and always complaining about every little thing. She says she feels like a "temporary gf" and "threesome girl", although we always treat her equally and do everything with her. She doesn't want her family and friends to know about our relationship because they are "anti-gay" and very religious, this bothers her. But I always treat her like a princess - if she has trouble in college or work, I do her hw/projects and help her however I can; if we go somewhere, I always pay for everything; if she has to wake up at 5am to go to work, I take her; if she is feeling sad, I'm there in 5 minutes to comfort her. I would do anything for her but it feels like we're not getting the same from her and there just isnt the same passion.
Before we used to have several hour threesomes every day, now we have sex with her like once or twice a week at most. We used to see each other every day, and now when we hang out, sometimes it feels like she doesn't even wanna be there. She just isn't making us happy anymore and I don't know what to do. We tried giving her everything she wants and she is still unhappy. She turned from being a happy positive girl into a drama queen that finds everything to complain about and put us down. We used to never fight but now we have arguments all the time. I know we still love each other, but I just don't know what to do at this point.
We don't want to break up with her for several years. First, we've been together for a year and we all developed feelings for each other and I don't think it would be easy for either of us to let her go. Second, although I love my girlfriend, our relationship was "incomplete" when it was just the two of us and I always craved more. I enjoy the physical part of having two sexual parters and three way sex very much and wouldn't be able to go back to just regular relationship, regular sex. And third, it seems like finding a replacement would be extremely difficult. Sure if I was single, it probably would be easier but can we really "date" as a couple? I think we got lucky with this girl and it would be very difficult to find another girl to enter this kind of relationship with us.
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