what should i do?
i've been "just friends" with this girl for a while, because of my inability to sexually escalate.
but anyways she wanted a CD to play when we got in her car today, so i put in this mp3 cd i had, skipped the folder with Sinn, AFCadam, mehow, and others and moved on to the music. but i fucking left it in there. She really liked my music so i know she's going to listen to it all the way through....and when she does its going to be adam's interview with sinn as track #1. fuck. what should i do?

Unfortunately you need to see what her reaction is before you say or do anything, so really trying to plan out what to do is pretty much just a waste of time and effort that will only end up stressing you out and making it harder for you to react in a successful manner. There really aren't scripts that can be given for situations like this because everyone will react to it differently and even slight variations in how she brings it up will greatly affect how you want to respond.

What I CAN tell you is to play it cool and not make a big deal out of it or try to defend yourself. It doesn't matter, it isn't a big deal and it's something silly that you can laugh at and even use in order to escalate with her if you do it right. If she says that it's stupid and doesn't work, then you can agree with her and tell her that it was something that you found online and decided to give it a listen and see if there was any merit to it. From there you can say things like, "I know this stuff is total bs, but there was this one kinda cool thing they were talking about" and then when she asks what it was, then you tell her you have to show her and then initiate some kind of kino routine that will work well based upon how much rapport you guys have going.

A lot of this is just things that you are going to have to judge for yourself based upon the knowledge you have learned and try to callibrate accordingly. Just remember to chill out and that you don't have to defend yourself because you haven't done anything wrong. Be cool and everything will play out fine!

yeah I'm with Rye Lee, you'll have to see how she reacts

Also don't worry about it. I have friends that are girls that found out i was into this stuff and they actually thought it was really awesome! When they found out that i was learning how not to be boring, lame or a douche they were like "thank you!" haha

got some awesome wing women out of it

some girls will put this down and others will embrace it
just see how it goes


best,
mike

Did you already consider to move to the other side of the world ?

I wouldn't worry about it, dude. See how she reacts and play it from there. No need on getting yourself worked up because there's a chance she won't hear it or just won't care. If she does bring it up, there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve social skills. She should appreciate you standing out from the rest.

you said, we've been "just friends" for a while.

at best, stop viewing her as a target. let her be the friend. start gaming other girls. if she wants to hang out with you let her. she'll be social proof & pre-selection for any other girl or set you want to open.

if you do this right it's going to turn out two ways or maybe both:
1)you will pick up other targets if your game is solid(and/or)
2)you can cause jealousy with your friend and she will realize she might "lose" you

EDIT:Make sure to neg her and DHV
(I personally neg when they do something i don't like AND when they show IOD. Friends naturally neg each other without really thinking about it. this shouldn't be too difficult i would think)

IF/WHEN she gets jealous: if she takes it hard, neg her harder. don't be afraid of hurting her feelings. she'll see how much your influence affects her emotionally.

BFF:Why are you going after her? she's so ugly!
PUA:Wah? You're JEALOUS aren't you!?!?
BFF:no, i just think she's not right for you
PUA:I thought you were my friend. You should be Happy/Supportive of me. She's alot of fun : D

(i personally like to escalate it to an argument and then leave angrily. if this happens: DO NOT CALL HER FIRST. let her call when she's ready. If you have a strong frame she's going to miss your presence this can take 2hrs to 1 week. you want her to be chasing you. if you call her first ur acting like an AFC. it's okay to apologize for your behavior but only after she does. if she negs you, neg her back.)

have the attitude of not caring either way. if you're game is solid you really won't care.

jealousy can be a VERY strong motivator for women. sometimes they don't even realize they're attracted to you until they feel jealousy's sting.

if she's really only interested in being your friend then she will not get jealous and should be happy for you getting with other girls. and possibly you will have gained a "HB9.5" as a wing.


what worries me here is that you may be putting this girl on a pedestal.
Neil Strauss labels this "One-Itis" and the cure is to bang a dozen other girls and then decide if this one is still as special as u believe she is.

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How about if I wait six weeks to call. I could tell her I found her number while I was cleaning out my wallet, I can't remember where we met. I'll ask her what she looks like and then I'll ask her if we Fucked. How about that? Would that be money?

Pretty funny post, bad luck eh? But yeah it isn't such a big deal, as long as you don't try to hide anything, by admitting to listen to PUA, there is a sense of confidence around you, not to be embarrassed for who you are. Maybe be embarrassed at the situation, but it can lead to a humorous situation.

It just like if someone asks you if you watch porn? You will answer, "yeah occasionally no big deal" when you admit to it they can't really accuse you of wrong doing and if they do, the "occasionally" comes in to play, because then you can say its bad blah blah.

definitely not. i we just hang out every once in a while, we're not "BFF's" ....i'm not that guy.


UPDATE ON THE SITUATION:

I don't know if she ever listened to it, and she still has the CD, but I F closed her the night after i left it in her car...so either way i don't care now, and we haven't talked since.

i gotta get better at setting up friends with benefits situations, i always end up fucking girls and never talking to them again. lol

if any girl ever finds out about you learning how to pick up women THE PROPER WAY and puts you down for it
ask her if shes ever met a girl that wants to be lonely all her life and never find the love shes always wanted

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just have fun and you will never be dissapointed

I wouldnt do that, just play it off in a playful manner.
Make a good laugh out of it instead of turning such a tiny thing into a big deal is the most productive way of solving this problem IMO.
However you will still have to calibrate to the situation and be careful not to come over as weird by disarming the situation with exaggerating humor.

Adapt to the situation!

If she asks what this is about tell her that you stumbled across this a few days ago and find it interesting, so have decided to look deeper into it.

When she gives you the weird look turn things around and say that she sure has done alot of weird things in her life aswell, which you dont want to even know about, with a big smile on your face ^^

Then its time for some tease, tease, tease...


Thats my humble opinion on this matter

Hope this helps bro

this deserves it's own topic but i'll put it here bc the OP said it

i always use the "i'm still hurt from the last girl line"
(it gives the idea that u are capable of commitment but you aren't ready just yet)
(also gives some comfort and shows that u are human as well)


this usually occurs after or just before the F-Close:

PUA: i'm not ready for anything too serious. i got out of a relationship [insert time] and the girl really broke my heart. i really like seeing you but i don't want to commit too soon. i've done the whole rebound thing before and it always ends in unhappiness.
HB: blah, blah, blah. . .
PUA: when i commit to someone i really commit and i want to make sure it's with the "right one." to me when i tell a girl i love her i must really feel it. i don't just say it to say it. to me love is a big thing and when i say it i really mean it.
HB: oh ya, love is a big thing for me too. blah, blah. . .
PUA: i really enjoy your company. i want to be able to see u again and maybe make this an ongoing thing. physical relationships are important to everyone. we all have physical needs. call me anytime honey.


if she uses the "you just want me for sex" line

PUA: honey, we spent [insert time] together and we didn't have sex. i really enjoyed your views on [whatever u had in common]. it doesn't matter to me we can just hang out(bluff).

[after u F-Close a girl, it's much easier to do it again. even if you say, "oh, we're just gonna hang out as friends."]

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How about if I wait six weeks to call. I could tell her I found her number while I was cleaning out my wallet, I can't remember where we met. I'll ask her what she looks like and then I'll ask her if we Fucked. How about that? Would that be money?

She wasn't a 9.5. The broad in question was 4.5. The judge's decision is final on this matter. Case is Closed.

She wasn't a 9.5. The broad in question was 4.5. The judge's decision is final on this matter. Case is Closed.