Why do I feel so miserable when I don't have a girlfriend? I mean in my life everything seems to be fine, I go to college, have friends, good family, and pretty much everything is satisfactory. However there is always one thing that brings me down everyday, I feel sad and depressed because a simple problem of not having a girlfriend. What is up with that?

It could be because you need/want attention from someone that you can call yours. Without that you feel like you're not as important. I have similar feelings, but when they get me down I just try to meet new women and see if relationships evolve from that.

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You are insecure. Don't worry a lot of people are insecure. I used to be the same. It was like whenever I was inbetween relationships I felt really down about it.

Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving oneself to be unloved, inadequate or worthless. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_insecurity

You have to learn to be happy with yourself. Focus on your interests and passions in life. I realised that there are so many things that I am interested in and every girlfriend I have had has held me back from doing these things. I don't even care about having a girlfriend now. If I did have one, I would make sure she didn't hold me back from dong the things that I'm passionate about.

Do some reading on inner game and learn how to overcome your insecurities. This will greatly improve your game because if you are gaming at the moment your insecurities are probably given away to the world just by your body language. If you have great inner game you will have great body language and girls will come to you.

Hey, I thought this was a PICK UP forum and not some fruity emotional share tank.

If you're hungry, you go and get yourself something to eat. If you're thirsty, you'd find yourself a drink. If you're cold, you put on a jacket. If you're tired, you take a nap and rest. For many things in life, we make no excuses; we don't need to justify our actions. When it's time for you to shit, you drop your drawers and squeeze that log out; you don't cross your legs and ponder the reasons behind the pain in your bowels.

You are you. There is no other "YOU" out there. You feel miserable when you don't have a girlfriend? Then just go out and get one. God damn, you're in the right forum to help you do this. Why sit there and ponder your pain? Why even bother "sharing" this pain? Some people might have similar feelings as you. Others will feel completely different. Some people can go days without eating and not even care. Others will feel nauseous if they skip breakfast.

Don't let anybody tell you that you lack anything. Our needs to mate and procreate is about as natural as any "needs" can possibly be. Without these "needs", none of us would even be here now would we? You say that you are FINE in every other aspect of your life so you're not some depressed kid. You are absolutely 100% normal. Dude . . . you just need to go out and find yourself some tail.

Get off your ass and start shopping for a girlfriend now!!! This process should be as natural as eating, walking, shitting, or sleeping. Again . . . we don't make excuses for any of these other daily routines do we?