So guys, it's like this. The girl I love came to my house today to study, but we ended up cuddling, kissing and etc (we didn't kiss each other in the lips, etc), still, I guess it's still kind of cheating.

She almost started crying before her BF came to pick her up. She didn't pull away, though, I tried to reassure her, but I don't know...

I know I shouldn't be messing with girls who have boyfriends, but I really love her, I've been in love with her for months, and we are not together now because of her insecurities (which were my fault anyway, but it's all better now).

My question is, how do I make her stop feeling guilty? How can I make her break up with him and come to me, I know she's much happier when she's with me, but I'm afraid she'll stick with him because of the guilt...

Please, I really want your help. Anyone, even total noobies, someone say anything.

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I have to tell you about the principal of Karma my brother.

To be honest you have heard of it already before so I will tell you this "What starts in betrayal will end in betrayal"

It would be different if you just wanted to sleep with her and then move on but you are talking about a relationship and what happens down the road when the relationship gets a little boring and she finds another friend and the same thing happens and you are her in her current boyfriends shoes six months later. If she is not happy with her current relationship she should have the courage and decency to end it.

Its not like she's married but I would not pursue but if you in love like you say you are then you should go after her!

I have thought of that, and it was "betrayal", yeah. We didn't do anything serious... But still, yeah, it'd be the kind of stuff she wouldn't do in front of her BF.

I do believe she wouldn't cheat on me (er, everyone is capable of cheating I suppose, but still) because this situation is a bit different. When she started with her dumbass boyfriend, she still liked me. We didn't have a relationship because she thought I was the kind of guy who'd leave her later... And that would be true, were it another girl.

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So what are you gonna do?

well whatever you do good luck.

I'm just going to wait. I said some afc things right now, but sometimes I think it's good to act AFC. She needs to be reassured I am not going to leave her if she pursues a relationship with me.

And thanks for your help, I really hope this works out. I know most guys never get their "one-itis", and she is mine. But I'm really close.

What would you suggest I do?

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your going to have to do some research and look through the forum and books to find solutions on how to fix this that is the only thing I can advise.[/img]

If this is truly the girl you love then you are screwed man.

If it is just a oneitis then you will be ok.

She does not feel well, she needs some kind of emotional reassurance from you and you want her. Chances are she is just using you to get strength to break with her BF. She might not even know it. Normally this kind of thing never work out, it will end in tears, let her go.

I talk from experience.

Ezo

Yeah, if it was one-itis I could let go... But I know the difference, i've been obsessed with girls before. I do love her, and well, I guess i'm kind of a romantic, I'm going to try.

And if it doesn't work out, I'll let go, like you suggest. I guess it's better for it to end with tears if I fail, because if I'd just let her go now I'd spend half my life thinking about "what could be", at least like this I'll know, for better or worse.

But thanks for your help!

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In that case, good luck!

Well. Start reading about covert hypnosis. You can use it for good, but everything you see in public is like you make someone do something stupid.

In reality, covert hypnosis can make someone feel really good.

Covert hypnosis!?!

That sounds evil... On the other hand it also sounds interesting, can you recommend any reading? And... Some of us think that it is wrong to steal another guys gf... Just so that you know.