Hey guys, any one got any advice? I find my underlying isues are 'I don't feel worthy', I don't feel motivated because I expect to fail so then I force myself to approach and because I assume I'm going to fail this obviously comes across in my approach. But yeah the biggest thing is that I don't feel worthy. tbh that is probably what causes a lot of the above issues.

You know when you're talking to someone and you hit that state of mind where you can talk about anything and I don't mean where you force or train yourself to talk about and do anything, but it just suddenly comes out of nowhere. There's this female friend that I really like - when I'm with her I flow, talk about random stuff, we always laugh, I went shopping with her a while back and just self-amused myself, joking around and shit. I know I should have an abundance mindset but the reason I bring this up is this is the second time in my life I've felt this comfortable to talk about literally anything (even my closest female friends I kept myself closed to them and opened up over time). The fact I'm like this with a girl I like is odd as normally you get nervous around a girl you like.

I don't know why I am 100% me, genuine, to my core with this one girl and want to dig into it so I can figure it out and incorporate it into the rest of my life.

I think the biggest holdback/setback for me is my fear of random conversations, like I visualise the opener being perfect then I ask about their night then I see this me in my minds eye freeze and have no idea what to talk about. Once there's juice in the conversation I'm on fire, good to go. It's when the conversation starts that I have trouble lubricating the conversation so it flows lol. Although I think I do my best when I'm relaxed and just chatting. But when I deliberately walk up to a girl that's when I guess I put on my 'action' mindset and put pressure on myself to perform and do a good performance. Yet a girl joined me and a friend in the smoking section of a pub, got her number (bf was beside her lol), haven't texted her in like 6 months but invited her to a party and she remembered who I was lol.

But I need your help! Any advice you can recommend is greatly appreciated. I think my problems must be an underlying self-esteem issue which my mind has covered up with shit and excuses. Because I have similar conversational problems with friends.

Thanks guys!

Your the one approaching them...
You are scouting ..... you did no have to pick these girl ... you wanted to because you thought they might be worth somthing....
Why should you dought yourself approach them
you are the man ..
you see that and they will to..

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