Hey, This is my first post and i'm fairly new to all of this so keep that in mind.

There's this girl that I've started seeing, i'll start off with some background info. She was in the same res as me in our first year at university, although we never got to know each other until a year later. In res, she'd alway's smile at me in the caf and stuff like that, i figured she was just friendly, i was also a huge noob back then and didn't do anything about it. One night that year her and a group of her friends came out with us, i thought my friend had dibs so i didn't make a move until she stopped dancing with him, made her way over to me and we started grinding, so i figure there's something there...just my luck not more then 3 minutes later we're all heading outa the bar and it's the last time i see her.

Year later at this bar/club around campus, she's with three friends of mine that i know she's been close with since 1st year in res, so I use the opportunity. I was pretty drunk, but from what i remember I said I remembered her from west, she said the same we talked for a but, and outa habit like I always do i cut the conversation short and then leave. I then drunkenly add her to facebook, which i never do, i usually wait till people add me.

Either way, probably worked out ok, next time i saw her she came up to me at the same friends party, talked for a bit, same thing ..i cut the conversation short and then i think we headed to the bar, but she didn't come with, she was staying in that night or something

another year goes by... seem to bump into her every other thursday that year at the same bar. Message her on fb saying it was good to see her and see if she want's to make our random run in's more frequent. She responds enthusiastically back although it's 5 days later, asking if i'm going out on thursday. Replied i'd be out, but we never ended up seeing each other. I always forget to get her number, until eventually one night, albeit after fucking up a separate hook up going really well that night, get her number.

This is where reading her starts to get really fucked up. She seems to be terrible with replying back. first time i texted her she took 3 day's to reply back, but everytime she reply's it's always really excited..exclamation marks everywhere. Only on day's that we're meeting up does she respond within a few minutes. example : One night we were both going the student club on campus for separate things and said we'd meet up, i text her and she says her friend bailed, we got there early and there was no line, so she came by herself and asked playfully if i'd wait with her if there was one, didn't get the text till after she got there but w/e. So i have a feeling she's interested. It was cheap wine night, and i got way too drunk ( there were pictures of me and my friend licking each other, her boyfriend was pissed, neither of us remembered it) made a fool out of myself in front of the girl, somehow still managed to salvage it, so that's also gotta be a good sign.

We started seeing each other at the end of the semester, and she's working in cottage country for the summer, so timing couldn't have been worse. At the beginning of may (school in canada ends in beginning of april) I texted her to keep my face in there for the summer and she how she's doing, she reply's almost 3 weeks later, apologizing and then sounding excited to hear from me.

When we get together, things seem great, she ends up being the one who makes solid plans, hell before i had the chance, she was the one who suggested our second date. Thing is, we havn't done anything yet, and i'm starting to worry that i might slip into the friend zone, although i'm sure she has to know what my intentions are. Not to be conceited cause i'm probably the opposite, but i'm a pretty good looking guy, or so i've been told, so i can't see attraction being a problem, just always seems like bad timing we started seeing each during exams, and one of us always had an exam the next day.

Anyway, there's the gist of it, long but at least it's all there. Before you say anything, i know i have a problem with oneitis, but this chick's worth it, and i am always pursuing other options, but just have this one at the top of the list. But yea, any oppinions, comments, suggestions on anything you picked up on regarding my habits or reading her would be great.

Thanks

Jc

Can't really see any problem here...

Just try not to get totally hammered next time and just go for it. You seem to be mighty close to the friend zone so move fast the next time you see her. I wouldn't worry about the whole fb thing as some girls are just like that and think they seem cool because it takes them ages to reply. If you get shot down, f*ck it. There is no point in thinking like 100 different outcomes of what might happen in your head.

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Sorry pal, I slipped up! I just read that again and realised you are already going out. Disregard what I just said then. I been on the computer for like 7 hours today so my head is like mush.

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You're first post was still right, next time i see her i gotta just go for it before i end up in the friend zone and get nothing. I'll be heading up to a friends cottage that she works near later this summer, hopefully meet up with her then and lock it down.

It might have seemed like it, but i wouldn't say we're going out, that's another part that's hard to read. Not sure if she'd even consider what we've gone on as dates, even though they pretty much were. I think the timing was just too shitty to know for sure where we stand.

I'm hoping she's just waiting it out anything official till we're back at school which i'm fine with, anything can happen over the summer especially since i'm not there to do anything about it, which has me worried.

I guess it's not that big of a sign seeing as she's terrible with keeping in touch, but i'm always the one to initiate conversation..text wise.

Any insight/routines/lines that could be useful in closing, considering the stage we're in?

Dunno mate I tend to avoid lines and routines as I feel they are to scripted and everytime I've tried to use them they've backfired spectacularly! The only advice I can think of right now is this quote I found on this site:

“The best way to get the person you want is to not be afraid to lose them” ~Neil Strauss

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True, I'm not usually one to use lines or routines either, but that's a good quote, i've heard similar ones before. Easier said then done though i suppose.

Thanks for the insight!