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What did you think was going to happen by hurting a girl everybody likes? I'm not saying you should have slept with her, but you could have let her down gently and discretely so she still had her dignity.
This is very true. Everyone is networked somehow, and you never know how an action towards someone will affect others. It's like if someone was messing with one of your boys, you would most likely take your boy's side if a fight broke out (I'm not condoning violence or saying you should resort to it if it can be avoided). The girls in your class are going to defend her before you, especially if you did let her down in a rude manner (this is pertaining to high school not necessarily when you are older). A way to let her down with actions not words is to just avoid being in awkward situations with her... at a party, surround yourself with people and be busy so you can't be pulled away.
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You should take this as a lesson to learn that all people deserve respect, even girls you don't find attractive. Do you see the parts a highlighted in red? Your attitude towards women needs a lot of work. I think you probably deserve the situation you are in, so I'm not going to tell you how to fix this just yet. Use this time to reflect on your behavior and how to improve yourself as a human being. You've been feeling ostracized and outcasted for a few days since the party. The HB 1 probably feels this way every day because of guys like you. Think about it.
~Antithesis
I'm not sure how you let her down so I can't say it was disrespectful or I'd be out of line, but if it was, maybe you wouldn't be in this situation if you would have handled it differently. If you don't mind me asking, how did you go about it?