Well could go into huge detail here but ill keep it light until its needed. Basicly started out Sarging online got her interested would talk off and on. progressed to phone game turns out she lives 1:30 min outa the city and was moving here(may 1st) and it was on hardcore IOI's point where she would say things like blah blah blah guy trying to pick me up and basicly she could hook up with anyone if she wanted but she doesnt want to has one person in mind. haha played it cool didnt even comment on the whole "easy to get laid" thing. just kept chatting having fun teasing her etc... was all going what i thought amazing, Till mom got ill she went out there (ontario) to be with her and down hill from there, mom died. and now from talking to her all the time her opening me or calling me on the phone etc... to now she came back and has moved into her place in my city, but has a friend out here who came back from ontario(a girl) and talked to her for like 5 minutes in over 2 weeks and she wont answear any text's or call so i have compleatly stopped.
If she logs into msn i dont message her waiting for her to call/message me befor a make anyother moves this the right move?
Oviously going out meeting other girls and hanging out with them but now way to realy play this against her jelousy as cant talk to her.
Any thoughts?

Dude your going a great job. Just keep up the freeze out. I like to do it for at least two weeks and then pop in say hi.

Not just hi though. Something that I related with her. I like to just base it off one of the interesting fact the girl has told me about her.

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Im afraid I personally disagree with the freezing out. Freezing out only works if the girl actually wants to talk to you but you are trying to "punish" her for doing something bad (and trust me, it works wonders). Otherwize the freeze out will just lead to drifting appart to the point where you are no longer on speaking terms.

my advide: start off with something non threatening seeing as she just went through some family stuff and probably doesnt feel like being hit on right now. Maybe wait a another week or two and try to talk to her on msn. Start off the message by maybe asking her for her advice on something. If she responds, then just start to run your regular game from the beggening. Just take it a bit slow cause o fher situation. If she still doesnt respond, then she's probably not going to again, so it might be time to start moving on.

Hopefully you got something helpful out of all of that.

-Zeus

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Thanks m15, Z. i agree with both. I meen im punishing her "non compliance" for not responding to the few texts i sent or call I made. and a freez out only works if shes interested which from the chemistry we had I would say is still there just have to "remind" her of it and I am already moving on to some other girls who knows maybe a J plotline will fall in nicely when i do end up talking to her again.

hahaha and Z neil patric harris is fucking ridiculous!!!! seen the episode of how i met your mother "the naked man"? bad ass, hes like my hero.


Also looking for suggestions on what to say to "reiniciate" contact some of those texting one liners looked entertaining(the alien one) as we have a playfull relationship. but any thoughts or suggestions are more then welcome!

Anyone have any suggestions on which rout to take when i start convo back up would be apreciated. Can think of 2 or 3 methods not sure if they any good.

1. play it off like i been busy but happy to talk to her/interested. ither cut it short or make up a reason to go once i got her hooked into the convo(tho this could prouve hurtfull)

2.continue to punish her by being distant and leaving quickly(i think this wouldnt work but who knows)

3.talk to her like nothing happend let the convo end when it needs to

Using this as a learning experience, I thought I screwd up and burnt a bridge. This is my old self,AFC coming out stuff doesnt go the way we want and we dwell on something, an outcome, or an idea. Turns out she was being distant from the sounds of things because she isnt dealing with a death in the family well IE she moved to calgary from banf and spends all her time in banff still drinking and when I asked if she had even talked about it with anyone her answear was "Kinda" oviously not... now that i got her in a convo she's oviously still into me, her suggestion to go see a movie outa the blue me having not hinted on hanging out at all.

Guess the lesson i have learnt and mistake's this will hipefully help you guys not make is...

Fixation = bad.
dont let yourself project something that isnt there your fears onto the situation if you percieve the outcome being in your favour and it could go ither way with her what you say and do because of your belief will kill your chances!!!!!

seriously ITS ALWAYS ON! but dont sit around and not go out if anything GO OUT MORE because you think you messed up and get your mind back to positive things. I still did but coulda done it FAR sooner and just not jumped to conclusions.