Hey all, I'm new to the being a PUA, and I've only just started reading The Game and checking out some PUA videos on the web. There's a girl who I've just wanted for a while now. She hangs out in our mutual group of friends, so I'm not sure if I can pick her up since she knows me so well and we've known each other for about 4 years. I don't want anything serious, just some fun, and she knows me as an easy-going, humorous, silly guy.
What do you guys recommend I do?

This is hard! It depends basically on the rank you have in the company. Are the most attractive, leader, cool guy there? Or you just hang on like a luggage with this company. If for 4 years there is no attraction spark between both of you - then it will be very hard.

Start flirting with her - and start doing it correct - slightly but also in a fun and cool manner. Also start KINO - at least basic from the start... then escalate it... and calibrate.

Good Luck!
-Slayer

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she knows me as an easy-going, humorous, silly guy.

I recommend you change how people view you. There is nothing wrong with being easy-going, humorous and silly (if you want to make friends). But if you are looking to attract women, come across as mysterious, confident, exciting, etc...

It sounds like you are already in the friend zone with this one. You could use her for target practice if anything, but don't spend to much time trying to turn things around. I would find someone new (start from scratch) to game.

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4 years? Good luck with that. If you haven't made a move on her after that long then you're probably friend zoned... Go for it and see what happens, if nothing more then it'll at least be a learning experience for you.

Four years into a friend zone is kind of hard to break given that's where you are at. It's not impossible but it may be damn near it in my opinion. If you are bent on her, which you shouldn't be, you can always freeze her out for a long period of time and re-enter her life with a new personality. That may be hard to do if she is in your mutual friend group.

I was good friends with a girl a few years back but some unneeded drama happened between our friends and we ended up not talking or seeing each other for two years. When I saw her again last month I had already adapted game into my natural personality. She was shocked about how much "I changed" and I suppose it was for the better considering we hooked up.

If I were you I would game this girl just like any other for practice. Try new things out and see how she responds. It may be tainted by her perception of you though, but why not try it out anyways. If she takes the bait, great. If not, you got in some practice.

Thanks for the replies! She will most definitely make a good target for practicing and such. But since this is not random game, do you guys still suggest I use openers and negs? She views me as a decent person, although I've never had the confidence to flirt or hit on her, because I don't quite know what to say, and how to say it by showing lack of interest (aka, a neg).
She is comfortable with me and likes me enough that she will offer me a ride somewhere if i need it, and is willing to be with me alone. Just trying to set out some familiar ground for you guys. What would you guys say to her? I'm not bent on her, but I sure wouldn't mind hooking up.

Hi!
I wanted to kiss my female best friend. I have known her for one year.
I knew that she was attracted to me. ( there were a lot of IOIs)
This happened today.

We went to have some ice cream and so on. She enjoyed the whole thing. ( a lot of kino from her and IOIs )
So at last we sat on a desk.
Then she had to go because of her bus.
She told it to me. – then I told her to go.
After that she stand up. Than she is in front of me she hesitated so I thought that she want something. So I sand up then she asked me if I go or not. I told her that I go.
(1 or 2 second silence)


Then I tried Mystery kiss routine ( with a little difference):
“What is it? You wanna kiss me?”
She told : “noooooo!”
Than she bursted into laughter.
Then I turned away a little and I told “I didn’t say you could. But it seemed like you have something into your mind.”
She just laughed and laughed and than she told me “idiot”
I acted confidently the whole time this was the only time when I didn’t.
Then the word just sliped out of my mouth: “Yes”

Then we laughed 2 another sec.
And than I told her that I go soon
then Goodbye

She seemed happy after this thing. At least when I looked back.


This is my story if anyone have any advice please send it to me.

How should I approach her later? What did I wrong? What did you do in my place in that situation?

thanks for the answers!