OK, I started talking to this girl, definitely hot, like 10 months ago. Yes, I have oneitis with her, but I just recently hit (more on that later), I'm trying to hold onto this girl, but I need advice.

HISTORY:

Here is how it started: After the first date, she blew off a couple texts from me, I called her on it, then boom, next day she's txting me back, go on a couple more good dates, I tried to hit, she cut me off when I got to her pants. We keep talking, I go back away to school. She stops texting me again, I ask her flat out if she wants to keep talking to me, she tells me she has been seeing another guy, so I stop talking to her for like 2 weeks.

Round 2: Her birthday popped up, admittedly, I used this as a chance to txt her with happy b-day. She txted me back and kept txting me, so I responded, then I get home, we're supposed to hang out (thanksgiving break), she flakes out. I keep talking to her (dumb, I know), Christmas break, she flakes out, not once, but 3x, and we never hung out. So I'm sent her a nasty text, I told her I'm done with her, then she txts me back apolgizing telling me she "wishes I was here right now" (as I'm driving back and she knew it).

So the weak part of me kept talking to her, she actually made plans to come see me around my birthday in mid March in January, she brought it up. I talked to her up till early february, when she pissed off, I forgot exactly what I said, but she stopped texting me again.

Round 3: I sent her 1 txt in late feb. (wanted to show there was no hard feelings) asking advice on something minor, she responded. Then a couple weeks later first thing in the morning I get a happy b-day txt from her. I thanked her, but played it cool this time. She then started sporadically txting me, till one day I devise a plan to lure her into asking me to send a picture of my unit. So I sent this pic, all the suddent boom, this girl is totally kissing my ass, total 180 degree turn around. Making up every excuse for previous actions in the world, and importantly, she told me she is "looking for more than just a hook up", completely unsolicited.

IMPORTANT PART:

So we've been talking for a couple months since, she came to visit me this past weekend. Obviously we had sex, I put on a great performance the first time, I lasted about 2 hours. Had sex 1 more time, less eventful. However, before she came to visit, she started acting distant in phone conversations and txts, and she is acting even more distant now. She used to txt me with good morning, now I'm getting like 2 maybe 3 txts a day. She also left one day before she was supposed to, she made up a BS excuse as to why she had to leave.

Now looking back at how I played my hand (I had read the first 3 or 4 chapters of the game back in March), I thought I played it well, cool hand luke, I picked up on essentially 2 things, "cat and string theory" and being "cocky/funny", those 2 general strategies guided my actions and it seemed to work well, then I let my guard down and started acting nice, this is right around the time when she started acting different.

I don't know what to make of this girl, I know I put on a good performance, I've got just about every other good thing going on for me. What do you guys think? Do I still have a shot? Anyone got any strategy/tactical advice for me? Before she left, she told me she "definitely wants to keep seeing me", and she left her panties here (she claims it was an accident, I'm not buying it because she told me to hang on to them for now when I offered to mail them to her). I"m all ears at this point.

MORE INFO (If you care to read):

I know she was seeing some goofy looking guy (feb/march for sure, but could have been longer than that, she might still be seeing him for all I know), seems he fit into her social circle well (she is into some sort of rock music, I'm not a huge music fan, I don't fit in well with her friends). Anyway, after I started talking to her, she took this guy's pics off of her facebook album.

Another intersting tid bit on the facebook note, she usually isn't very facebook active, but last time she stopped talking to me she got sort of active doing dumb small things on facebook, same thing is happening now, I don't know if that means anything, but it's an observation.

I was thinking about ignoring the few txts and maybe call(s) that I might get from her for like a week. This is the best I could come up with for a strategy, which is why I need some advice. I'm stressed out over this, I thought I had her this time, but she seems to be slipping through the cracks again.

Bro... This is way to close at home for me to ignore it.

The first girl I ever really had a connection with was this girl Erin. She was my oneitis. She has been my good friend for two or three years, and we went to the same college. We've hung out 3 times total, andnot even at college.

We always talked on aim and through txts. I was just her guy she told shit too and get advice.

Your situation is an upgrade for mine. I just say try going for other girls, and that way your mind is less focused on her, and let things work out naturally instead of forcing it.

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Giovanni

Yea this is def not the advice you were prob looking for but Ive gone through almost the EXACT same thing. However I learned a lot from it. The only thing you can really do is to completely cut her off from you 100%. Sometimes you cant be friends. If you lose a friend u just gotta deal with that too. My roomates going through the same thing too and it just doesnt work. It NEVER does.

One thing that really helped me was picking up a new hobby (for me, sailing) which kept me and my mind busy and work on your game. Once you have a lot more options available youll look back and think. WTF was I thinking!!!

Good luck. Hearing it from someone else will hopefully make it easier to understand but it damn sure wont make it any easier. If its like what I was in, youve got damaged goods. Get away from em.

GL man!

OK, I lost her, I got that. My big question is then, where specifically did I go wrong? I have an idea I think, but I need reinforcement.