Okay, so I met this chick at a rave a month or so ago and ended up at the same after-party as her. She isn't super hot, but there is something about her that I just like. She was coming down pretty hard, and I was still quite merry, and I could tell that I was driving her up the wall by trying to talk to her so I was just polite when I needed to be and otherwise left her alone. I met her again at a bush doof a fortnight ago, where she was a bit friendlier but not overly. By this stage I decided that she wasn't cool enough to be worth the effort, considering she wasn't that hot.

Anyway, she was at another rave I was at on Saturday night and somehow (I have no memory of how) we ended up sitting in my car outside together listening to tunes and just dribbling shit to each other. We went to the same after party again, and really hit it off. She apologized for how she'd spoken to me last time and we sat close together all day and just chatted. Looking back, I should have escalated kino a bit more, but nothing I can do about that now.

I don't have her number, but I do have her on Facebook (from the first time I met her). So far I have refrained from posting anything on her wall or messaging her.. is this the right thing to do? Should I just wait and hope that she says something to me, or make the first move? No doubt I'll see her again within a month or two, but she's really been occupying my thoughts (the first girl to really do that since my ex) and it's hard to not try and initiate something! I tend to be a very one-itis type of person, and I don't want that to happen here, but I would consider making a girlfriend out of her if I had the chance/she lived up to my expectations (I like the idea of girlfriends a lot more than hook-ups).

Not that I expect this to be answered before it's too late, but she just came online on Facebook messenger.. do I say anything?! For the moment I won't unless she says something to me first, but it's hard to do that, haha.

Holla at her! say something that gets her attention but doesn't say anything... an invitation for her to open you! If ur the man, u must direct the conversation, u must take control, u must initiate things, U MUST ACT FIRST

"Hey Rave-woman" lol i don't know her name but justa simple "hey" and u'll see how she reacts from there.
You dont wanna be writing too much anyways, because thats just showing that ur thinking too much. short sweet & simple dude

Well, she ended up posting something on my wall first, to which I replied and then she did back again. After that I initiated a convo in the messenger thing, but it was very on and off.. sometimes she'd say heaps, then go quiet for awhile so I just ended up saying bye and going to bed. Today I've not said anything to her on messenger, as I don't want to come off as desperate or needy or anything, and she's not said anything to me either.. just leave her alone for a few days?

I wish it was easier to just not say anything and not think about her

i hate facebook sarging. but it works.

got her number?

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I'm afraid not.. I past out just before she left the after party. Argh!

Yeah keep working on the facebook. If you have a close platonic female friend who can help you out by writing something provocative/stimulating/exciting/etc on your facebook wall to let the Rave Girl know you have other female friends who you interact with regularly.

It can be something simple like "Hey Builder, _____ event was fun with you this past week."

Then since you guys have similar tastes in events, offer to meet up with her somewhere at one of those raves or whatever, and get her number in advance on facebook a day before.