".............I'm not at all good at this, but you seem to like me and.........".
This keeps her from thinking that you are a player, but at the same time it can imply that you have very little confidence and/or you are unsure about what you want.
If you reject her a first time, and the second, you dont seem sure of wether having or not something casual or sexual with her, might seem like a lack of desicion.
Besides, you dont always have to go for the easy kill. Meaning that you shouldnt have something with her just because shes willing to fuck you.
Im gonna Quote MYSTERY METHOD ( a book I´d recomend you to start reading )
Quote:
Here is what it means if you have no standards when it comes to women:
1) I will take "whatever I can get (which is not much.)
2) There is nothing special or unique about you, I settled for you, because I have no sexual choice. I'm grateful just to find someone who is willing to fuck a loser like me; apparently that someone is you.
3) Being with me makes you feel common and used.
"She invited me to a movie on Sunday. Benjamin button. Unsexy as hell. I got Nada afterwards. "
dont let her make that kind of desicions unless you know theyre gonna favor you.
if she invites you over to watch a flick, you pick the movie.... you can go for something cheesy, or erotic sensual or something with kissing scenes.
Its something like saying to her " what do you want to talk about?".... again dude, youre gonna be responsible for the chit chat if you can make a good conversation, with sexual inuendos all over you can get her attracted pretty soon and make her more willing to sleep with you. other wise you give her the choice to talk about boring stuff that in the end will bore yourself. She wants a man thats in control of the situation.
about laying her. id say.you either make her wait till the end of the finals period. or you hit on her really hard...
Dont give her the chance not even for a second to think that youre desperate to F her...................
because youre not, because shes not that cute, because shes SPAM her stuff, and you have a bit higher standards, because you have more choices on women, thats because you know what you want in life.... are you following me??'
Brief advice on your situation. Call her one night that both of you are free, set up a date, and go KINO on her, Kiss her, and if she fights your attempts to F her, then Freeze out.
quoting mystery method again..
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The Freeze-Out
When YOU are in the attract phase, YOU can bust her balls when she busts yours. But once you reach comfort, if she busts on you, you can only freeze-out by withdrawing attention. She will say, what's wrong?" You say, "Nothing." (Not sulking! The delivery must be sincere, like it's really no big deal)
Then, after she is punished by your silence for an awkward moment, return to comfort by finding something to IOI her for.
She learns quickly not to bust on you because, (1) you've already proven that you can bust back (in attract phase) and (2) she feels discomfort whenever she busts on YOU. This is your opportunity to show her YOU aren't always an asshole like you were in attract phase.
So freeze-outs are a way to train her. You can use discomfort sparingly to teach her that being nice to you means comfort and fun. When the time has come to
build comfort, it's counterproductive to continue being cocky and ball busting. The punish/reward dynamic must be used instead.
This phase is also your opportunity to demonstrate that you are capable of making uncomfortable situations comfortable again. The use of sniper negs is great here, like saying, "you have something on your nose" and handing her a tissue.
She feels uncomfortable but it's not your fault, it's God's. Right after this, she will feel so small After she notices that you are freezing her out a bit (not as if you're being cruel, but rather as if you aren't interested in her), give her a compliance rest and then reward her compliance with an IOI In this way you are can continue rewarding her, but only for compliance and not misbehavior.
PLease read through,
Ideas posted here are only opinions. ok? so try changing your focus on your game and youre on
peace !