long story short..

met girl about 3 weeks ago at club...shes ALOT younger than me but doesnt bother me. Legal of course.

i didnt have my phone on me in club so told her my name and to look me up on facebook, she also took my number. Next day she looked me up and sent me a msg on facebook. I asked her for her number on facebook, she gave it and i called her about 3 days 3 later for a chat as we didnt really get to spk much at the club so i wanted to screen her on phone first to see what shes like.

When i called her she was sick in bed (if she wasnt well dam she made it sound real), I said we should go out for a quick drink some time when shes better. she was like yeah cool defintely. she texts me a few days later saying 'Im better!' ie. lets go out. Coincidentally I had just come down with flu, was sick for a week and had to turn her down (probably a good thing). told her we'll now have to wait until i get better.

When i was feeling better i could feel this had all been left too long already, the line had kinda gone slack (as david d puts it), its a pitty as we were both sick but anyway. THEN...i text her saying im better, lets go for drink...she says her week is pretty busy but she'll phone me tomorrow and we can organise a time. next day she doesnt call...following day she doesnt call either...then tonight (day 3) sends me a broadcast text msg which was clearly sent to a few of her friends telling me/them there is a party as so and so and to come out and play. the msg started with 'hey guys, party at xyz...'

ok now, she said she would call, and didnt...then takes the easy route and simply includes me in on a group text message instead of calling. here what i need help with...i want to set the tone and tell her i dont tolerate people not sticking to their word and i dont waste time with people like that etc etc. I mean im not going to run along to this club to meet her after she said she would call, plus, we were meant to hook up for a drink in private (that was the plan), but instead i got a group text. she's pretty fuck*n hot and seems down to earth when i spoke to her on the phone. seems like a really nice gal actually

how can i get her attention with out doing the whol needy thing and losing value...the last thing im going to do is...'hey why didnt you call me and send me a group text msg instead?'..that will surely convey neediness. I think shes keen to meet as shes the one that sent me a text when she was better so we could go out...but then of course i was sick and had to turn it down.

So what do i do without coming around like a needy dude that was effected by her f*cking me around and not calling when she promised she would?

What I would do would be to actually go to the party. Once there just play it as a sarging scenario, go and run game on all the HBs. Raise your social value throughout the party and essentially use the whole party as a pivot for your target. Your target will notice your high social value throughout the party and come running back to you and then you can tease her for not calling you back.

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<Jac>

thanks for the input.

i did think about that, only thing is...

1. she knows that if i rock up at the club im going because she is there. reason is that i never go to this place and of course she knows i got the msg informing me about this party.
2. its a week night and all mates are staying in for the night, ie. i would be sarging alone. (i would either have to make some quick friends in the beginning of the night, or HOPE to meet someone I know there. chances are she will probably eventually find out i came there alone...which will look TERRIBLE of course.if it was a more local club that i was known to be at then it might make sense as i would probably end up knowing someone at the club when i arrive, in that case I could simply tell her I was meeting my mates at the club if she asks who i came with. (you see i KNOW i wont see abyone i know at this club,she knows i havent been there in yrs as we actually spoke about it over the phone)

Then tell her that you can't make it to her party thing because you are actually heading to another party with your buds, invite her to join. If she says no then play it off like it doesn't bother you because you have your other friends going. Then about a week later invite her to something in the same manner, after a few times she'll break because she'll realize she's missing out on you.

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<Jac>

so you reckon just keep inviting her out? surely after the 3rd 'no' from her it will seem like im a bit too persistant and possibly needy?

What about this to put a spin on things....as I mentioned she sent me the broadcast text msg last night (tues) to come out....how about i send her a broadcast msg on fri informing her of where me and my friends are going....it's a new club in town which i actually told her about and i know she is alreay keen to try it out. The msg will start with something like...'Ladies and Gents....off to the new club xyx tonight...', or even cheekier and maybe a bit too transparent...'Hey girls, we're off to'..this way she'll feel like nothing but one of my lady friends who got invited to tag along for the night. I am also bouncing back with reframing the vibe as her being my tag along and not the other way round.

(it has the risk of this being a bit obvious that im simply 'getting her back' for sending me that broadcast msg)

What you think?