Hey guys!

I've come across a problem that I can't find a solution for. What if you get threatened by some asshole? How to react alpha?

Examples:

• In a discoteque I start to look at a guy that stares at me. He approaches me after I stare back and tells "Do you want to die?".
• As I open a door, 3 boys of my age run towards me from behind, pushing themselves through the door, almost jostling me. With a strong voice I tell "Watch out!!" and one of them turns to me with a dead serious face saying "What? Watcha gonna do if not?". He starts to insult me, I do the same and he hits me.
• I get threatened by someone with a knife.
• I get threatened by a gang (3+ rowdies).
• And what if you get randomly badmouthed by someone? Pretending to not hear it is very afcish. Swearing back is very afcish. Confronting that guy leads to violence. No other ways?

Can't think of more at the moment but I think you get the idea. How do I react alpha in these situations and in general? Asking as a 19 year old guy that doesn't know any self defence/martial arts/anything. Is the best way to finally start learning some defence and then choose the brute way to neatly and quickly solve these problems? After all I got to protect my girl too!

Thanks in advance for replies!
Hawk

I think you put the wrong vibes out. I dont know anyone who gets threatened like you do. Try to put out a more fun/happier vibe? most people dont mess with people that are fun and high value.

Also, take a MMA class. It'll show you that getting punch in the face is not that bad.

-I'm in the US Army and we do Unarmed Combative. I also did Tae Kwon Do for 4 years.

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Wow, lucky you. You get threatened and can easily pick fights. I'm kind of disappointed that right now when I learned to fight and bulked up, nobody wants to pick on my anymore. Everyone has become so polite, lol. I kind of regret, that I was such a wimp in early school years. If I had this attitude then, I would be fighting everyone on every corner.

Ill pick on ya watermelon, if you really miss it that much...

Hawkin, man, situations like these, sometimes take finesse. Not knowing you, i cant tell you reasons for the behavior to be attracted to you, it could be the vibe you put off, it could be how you precieve the situation, it might be that you in some way seem threatening to them.

The most basic technique, is to simple phase the guy out like he does not bother you. A guy once told me, while i was in a sentence, that my game sucks and i would not be able to game the girl he was standing next too. I simply said "cool, anyway" and kept right on talking.

In all my craziness in life, i have experienced some interesting lifestyle choices. some situations with others have been far worse then what you describe, some ive been able to use my personality to relieve the tension, othertimes more agressive negotiations played a role. However i never encourage anyone that has no training, to engage in altercations. If in doubt, simply smirk, left out a huff and walk away. No one will shame you for it.

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

So basically you encourage me to learn to defend myself! I think I didn't express myself very well It's not like such things happen to me all the time! But they do happen casually!
It can be that I'm putting off the wrong vibes as you say, but also I'm living in a megacity with racial differences. So it's nothing special getting badmouthed on the streets by a group of muslims just for being what you are. The same occurs in my school with 95% boys, so testosterone is flowing like crazy You might just walk along the hall when a foreigner pushes you for no reason.

Well, that said I could have thought of the answer myself, just more gym training and doing some martial arts course! Thank you
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