Heya chaps,

Okay so this is my first post, and it will probably suck, so bear with me!

I'm still very AFC, its a pain in the ass to pull yourself together and get a grasp! I'm checking out a dating website, testing a few things... I've had these responses so far and I'd like everyone to offer an opinion here!. Help me out, I'm a Newbie!

Im chatting to this girl on a dating website (Yeah, I know your all laughing, I am too!) and I'm a bit lost!....

This is a copy and paste transcription, so feel free to take it apart! Idealy if you guys can get back to me within the next 24 hours (sorry,.. pushing it) then i will gladly listen!

ME - You sent a meet request, Ive read your profile, like what you have to say and would like to definately get to know you, a profile can only say so much!
Ive just updated mine, ive been away for a while so check it out. If you like what you read then mail me back and we will go from there!

C99 - Hi Anthony, I really like your profile, It very interested. What do you normally do in your free time?

ME - I play a lot of guitar as you can probably imagine. I usually go out on the weekends with friends, watch a few bands, dance like a mong lol! I rehearse with my band on Sundays which usually turns into a whole day thingy, most of the day is pretty much spent playing pranks on each other

What about yourself? What do you like doing? what do you get up to?

C99 - I love when I get get up in the mornings and my shihtzu dog wait me up for her walk and afterward make bacon with pancake and eggs , then off to do what ever else for the day , maybe shopping or going to the gym .

…At this point I cant transcribe because I’ve deleted the message but I ‘message’ her saying ‘would she like to go for a coffee, chatting online isn’t the same as chilling ion a coffee bar’…

..2 Days…. I decide to message her!

…’ Okay, maybe going a little fast here. Suppose we sholud get to know each other a bit more on here first!
>so what do you do for fun? what music you like?

And she says…!!!!!

“I think that would be great baby. Lets chat later and I will tell you all that you want to know.”

This could mean many things, help!

Cheers!

Ill take into consideration that you understand that your tendencies are still very AFC. So my recommendation is to grab some Vaseline so this is not as painful.

your conversation is like eating dry cardboard, there is nothing to it, not flavor, no flair. like a robot in an a monotone voice. If you know who steven hawking is, this chat is a clone of him speaking.

First dont worry about being on a dating website...anyone here that laughs at you for that, is a douche because most people probably have, or still are using some sort of networking site, even if its on occasion, to meet new people. You telling us we are laughing, is because your confidence is at a level where you think people will laugh at you. Lets increase the confidence, not worry about anyone elses image of you, and live for yourself.

Stay confident and get away from the job interview chat style. Dont validate yourself, rule of thumb, dont ask...tell.

"If you like what you read then mail me back and we will go from there! " what is this? confidence my friend confidence. She already sent you a request, shes intrested...so take out any...if, care to, wish to, have time...statement.

if she asks you something, you dont have to answer the question, you can simple write a response to what she said and ignore the questions, it creates suspense and now her curious nature will take over and want to know more. Dont respond right away, it makes you look desperate and then you seem like you have no life.

if you do answer the questions, keep them brief with as little detail as possible. The more intrigue you seem the more she will be hooked. even answer her questions with a question.

her:what do you do for fun?
you:are we talking everyday fun or extreme fun?
her:everyday fun...
you:cant say, the meaning of everday fun escapes me.

then you would make a statement of observation followed by a question to elicit a response. Trick is to have her respond to you and keep control of the conversation.

~dont come on too strong, keep it friendly and fun.
~dont ask for attention,be compelling so she gives it to you.
~keep the conversation and answers brief. when the conversation is at intresting point and shes trying to find out more, say you have to go and will chat later. keep her hooked
~never ask her views of you in any form. If it sounds needy or attention seeking...dont say it
~Stay positive and confident. read through the forums, there is an online sarging forum with many answers to online interactions.
~overall have fun and dont worry about the outcome, the situation is a valuable learning tool

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