Hey guys,

I imagine that this is an unusual question but I was "gaming" a girl last year. All was going well into November: she was chasing, she apologised for how drunk she was on her birthday (trying not to lose me), all that kind of stuff. This is the first girl I met after deciding to game.

Anyway, for various reasons I was unable to escalate. Around Christmas things started to go downhill. Culminating in an embarrassing incident where I turned up at her house for Christmas dinner (I was invited) but no one realised I had RSVP'd (Facebook).

Effectively, I embarrassed her in front of her house mates and friends.

I txt'd her the next day to say sorry (a mistake?) and got "That's fine" as a response. I left her alone and tried to start a conversation with her a month later, she responded in a not warm / not cold manner (kind of switched off).

Anyway, on to my question. I really liked her (as a person), we had a nice banter going on (which I miss). I want to get into a friendship with her (forget anything else--like they say, I can meet other girls through her). I just really want to start talking to her again.

What should I do to get through the extra thick shield she (probably) now has up???

Thanks for spending your time reading my ridiculously long question...

I went through something quite similar, although me and the girl stopped talking because another girl got involved stirring shit. It went from her calling me every day to not even replying to my texts i sent her now and then. The way i got through it was to actually have it out with her properly, talk about everything that happened, we agreed to be friends again but nothing really changed. I stopped contact almost entirely, with the odd text or call here and there and its very slowly only just starting to come back now, and we stopped talking at christmas! Shes now back to calling me up every few days and wanting to hang out and do stuff etc.