Hi
I'm relatively new to the game and have been reading up on a lot of techniques to create attraction for a while now. But it has only been recently that I have taken action in overcoming the fear of approaching women and putting the game into play.
So I need some guidance to make sure my next move is right.
My scenario:
A week earlier, I went to a nightclub with my friend. Roughly around 1am we spotted 2 girls dancing on the dancefloor. Both 8s and decided to take the first step in overcoming the fear.
We started dancing next to them. And made eye contact with one of the girls. She
didn't break away so I gave her a smile and broke eye contact to spark some initial interest. Then I gave my wing the signal that it was time to make out opening.
As we glanced over, to our suprise one of the girls said hi and introduced themselves to us. Ok, easy so we chatted for about 2mins and threw in a few c&f in too. Then we left to go to another part of the club as we spotted another friend. No number close though (most likely a mistake on my part)
Later on in the night, the girls spotted us and came over to me saying "hey, do u remember me? My friend missed u after u left before and wants to get ur number"
So time constraint works!! However I got lucky, I should have got number before leaving.
Shortly after, we left. I sent her a txt saying nice meeting u, take care. She replies, "ur such a nice guy, her friend is driving her home now, hope u had a good night"
This txt made me think, ok nice guy will probably lead me to friend category which is not a good sign. Well at least I learnt not to contact till after a few days...
Next, I'll juz summarize a chain of events that followed:
A day later, she txts me saying she is at a group karaoke and asked how work was
for me that day.
She tells me she's going on a little vacation with friends for 3 days so on the day of trip I txt her saying "hope u have fun on ur trip,"
Later that night she txts me summarizing her activities for the day.
I'm thinking, if she's txting me about these random stuff. She must b interested.
After she comes back, I tried to arrange to meet up for coffee over the weekend. But couldn't because she hurt her ankle while on the trip and needed some rest.
Then later on in conversation says "I need to apologize in advance because she doesn't know wen we can have that coffee"
At this point I'm thinking ok red flag. Busy excuse with no attempt to select another day means she's not interested. Time to back off.
Few days ago over weekend she sees me online and initiates conversation. I tell her I'm going out to a club that night. It happens to b where one of her friends is having a bday party. But says she isn't going as she needs some rest from the trip. The suggests we could meet for coffee before that if I wanted. I replied it's up to her since she's the one with the busy schedule. Then she says "sorry I forgot I had training session after work and can't make it". Which may be true because she works and studies and has to manage a college social group.
On another day she invited me to join her for dinner with her friend (the one with her at club when I first met her) and her friends boyfriend because "I don't want to be the third wheel". How can this invitation be interpreted?
She also invited me to see a concert because one of her friends couldn't go anymore and wanted to c if I was interested. And no, ticket is not free.
At this point I don't know where I stand. It's only been a week since I met her from the club and too early to tell whether she really was too busy to meet for coffee. Does her invitations to other meetings mean anything? It's not 1 on 1...
My next step is to not contact her for a few days then try arrange coffee meeting over the coming weekend. If it falls through again, I can safely says she's not interested.
I need some guidance. I know I made a lot of errors, it is my first attempt afterall. What do I need to improve on?
Thanks
CHAT